How Do You Break Up With Someone You Still Love?

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"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, Life and Relationship coach here in New York City and the author of "It's All About You". To break up with someone that you still love is really a hard thing to do. And, I think good for you if you realize that the relationship is not working or for whatever reason it is that you know that you don't belong together, because love is not enough to make a relationship work. And it can be really painful. So, I think really be compassionate and be loving and really let that person know, "Look, I do love you, but..." and whatever your 'but' is, make it really clear to them because if it is a problem that they could change, then you are actually doing them a favor by letting them know what it is. Still hold strong and don't let them manipulate you into staying in the relationship if it's something that they need to change and grow. That's something they need to go and do on their own. And, then maybe try it again and come back later after they've done that work. But, really just be true to yourself and make sure that you take care of your own needs. And, I think it's ok to say, "I love you. I just can't do this anymore.""