How Do I Become a More Confident Woman?

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life and relationship coach here in New York City, and the author of It's All About You. To become a more confident woman is really just about deciding that you are a competent...confident woman. And I think, yeah, you're going to say, "Okay. Yeah, easier than it sounds." But when you're confident, it means that you love yourself and you believe in yourself and you don't care what anybody else thinks. And that's not in a way that you're arrogant or that you'd hurt others, but if you can really love yourself completely...and a great way to try to do that more is really write down all your wonderful qualities. Write a list of all the things that you know you're good at. Be conceited. Really pat yourself on the back and say, "I'm good at these things." And then every morning when you first wake up, read them. If you live by yourself, maybe tack them up on your mirror, and when you're getting dressed in the morning, look at those things and tell yourself, "Yes, I am good at these things." And really believe it. If you do that on a daily basis, you will start to believe it. And people will treat you the way you teach them how to treat you. So if someone speaks harshly to you or belittles you in any way, then stand up for yourself. Defend yourself in a...in a calm way, not in an irrational way. But people...you teach people how to treat you, and if you command respect, they'll give it to you."