How to Catch a Cheating Husband

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life and relationship coach here in New York city, and the author of It's All About You. How to catch your cheating husband, is a common asked question. But I think, if you can really watch his behavior and see. If he's starting to dress differently or take more pride in his appearance, if he's working out a little bit more. If he's really making himself look better. Hopefully, that's for you, but that could be a warning signal to take an interest further to see why it is. If he's staying later at work than he normally does and you don't think it's really because some new project. You might want to investigate that. If you can look at his phone records and see if he's been calling a certain number a lot. And really you know, sometimes you can do a reverse look up on-line. And see who that person is, that he's been calling. I think, if you try to investigate those things without tipping his hand about it. You know, if you see something, don't go flying off the handle and tell him about it immediately. Because if he is indeed cheating, it gives him then caution to hide that from you. And he'll maybe get a disposable phone, so that you don't know about it. So I think, the more you can investigate on your own. If you have to hire a private investigator, if you can afford it. I don't recommend you following him all around yourself, that can be dangerous. But you can check out his stories, if he's telling you things that you think are not true. If he's using a friend as an alibi, maybe call that friend casually or if you know that friend's wife. And try to just check up on him a little bit to see and make sure that what he's telling you, is actually the truth. And before you go flying off the handle, maybe take a look at your own behavior in the relationship. And see if you've been causing him to want to look somewhere else. Because usually men cheat for a reason of, they're not feeling, that they're not getting the attention that they need. And they're not getting the emotional outlet that they need. So maybe talk him about it and see what's going on."