Understanding Men's Behavior

Video Transcript

"Hi! I'm Donna Barnes, Life and Relationship coach here in New York City, and the author of "It's All About You." In this clip, we'll talk about understanding men's behavior, and boy, isn't this the age all question all the women want to know how do you understand men, and the truth is, really is to be open to the fact that they're different than you are, and I think, you know, women are more comfortable talking about their feelings than men typically are, so if you want to have a more emotional kind of conversation with them, I think the more calm you can be. Well, be helpful in trying that, you know, guys don't like to feel like they're being blamed for anything, and they don't feel like they're being put on the spot. They do really want to make you happy and that the same time, they want to feel cared about, and they want to feel loved, so I think the more you can make your man feel loved and feel cared about, and at the same time be your own person and love yourself, and have your own life, then I think you'll do better in understanding men, I think that as long as they feel confident that they can trust you, and that you're there for them, then they feel more comfortable with you. So, men aren't that hard to decode if you're fair with them, but if you want to nag them and you want to blame them, and, you know, be critical of them, then of course, they're not going to like that, and they're going to shut off from you, and you're going to say, geez, he runs away, he doesn't want to talk to me. Well, I wouldn't want to talk to you either, if you're not going to be fair, then it's going to be hard for you to communicate with them and it's going to be hard for you to understand them, but the more you can take responsibility for your own behavior, and the way you approach things, and the things that you do with them, and really be loving, and be giving, and be open with your feelings, and if that's hard for him, be calm, be, you know, try to coax him a little bit and allow him to be uncomfortable with it, don't force him. I think you'll understand men much better than you think you do. This is Donna Barnes from New York City."