Tell-Tale Signs of a Liar

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life and relationship coach here in New York City and the author of 'It's All About You.' In this clip we'll talk about tell-tale signs of a liar. And I think if you really watch the person, and you know them well, you'll know for sure when they're lying. I think liars typically don't....they either don't make eye contact or they make ridiculous eye contact that they don't normally make, 'cause they're trying to make you think that they're not lying. I think if they squirm around and they're uncomfortable while they're speaking, that means they're probably not being truthful. If they repeat themselves, that's a sign that maybe they're not being truthful. And it's kind of like, he who protests too much. If he's really pushing the....he or she, I don't mean to imply that it's only men who would lie, if that person is pushing their agenda really hard, then it might make you wonder 'Gee, why is this something they need me to believe so much?' So, I think that if you know somebody well and you watch their behavior, usually there's what is called micro-expressions, and there's little, tiny expressions that they'll make in their face when they say a lie, that if you know them well and you really watch for it, you'll see. And you'll know that they're probably not telling the truth. I think, you know, if they touch themselves and they're kind of uncomfortable while they're talking, that's a sign that maybe they're not telling the truth. And again, you know, if they repeat themselves too much, or they're really not open to interruption, like, if you interrupt them and it's like they're recanting a story rather than just talking, it's probably something that they worked up in their head and that they're trying to, you know, lay it out like their excuse. Then, you know, they should be flexible with how they're talking about it if it was an actual true thing that happened. Your questions shouldn't bother them, they shouldn't get annoyed by them. So, I hope that helps, and I hope that everyone's always honest to you. This is Donna Barnes from New York City."