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Summary: Living with someone that is manic depressive can be quite tiring, but constantly showing support through both manic and depressive times is important. Help a loved one cope with manic depression with information from a licensed mental health counselor in this free video on mental health conditions.
David Thomas has been certified as a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Florida since 1986, and he has been a member of The National Board of Certified Counselors since...read more
"I'm Dr. David Thomas. I'm a practicing psychotherapist in Tampa, Florida with Whitford Thomas Group speaking to you today about how to live with someone who has manic-depression. Manic-depression, often known as bipolar or manic-depression, is a mood disorder. When we talk about manic-depression we're talking about two kind of distinct types of mood dysfunction. The one is certainly the mania, and the other one is the depression. Both are difficult to cope with as a family or friend, and so how can we kind of learn to cope with someone who has manic-depression? Well first of all, it's important to realize that they do have a disorder. That often times even though it seems purposeful in their behavior, that often times they struggle with trying to make change. Certainly with the mania it's very difficult. Interestingly when someone is manic they tend to have a heightened self-esteem, a lot of grandiosity, high energy level, don't need much sleep, often times engage in high-risk behavior, often times very hedonistically self-defeating behavior with buying sprees, sexual indiscretions, things of that sort. And I guess the thing that certainly I've noticed over the years in working with folks as well as you know having family or friends who may have manic-depression, is it's tiring. So certainly having a high energy level to deal with folks who have manic-depression is very important. On the depressed side the person who tends to be depressed tends to have a very strong sense of hopelessness and helplessness, and that's a little tough too to kind of deal with on a day in, day out basis. Something most of us like to experience and be with people who tend to be optimistic and hard-working and kind of find joy in life. Unfortunately people who are depressed don't find a lot of joy in life, and often times are rarely motivated to make change. Again I think overall it's important to recognize that this is a disorder and because of that your family or friends or loved ones are going to have difficulty getting through that, certainly without medication. I'm Dr. David Thomas speaking to you today about how to cope with someone with manic-depression."
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trwilson said
on 3/10/2009 omG - Apparently, a comment to this is limited to a shorter comment than I had originally left. As a result, I had to cut and paste my comment into three (3) separate comments. To make matters worse, the comments I left will start at the last and work up from there. Sorry I didn't understand the format before posting.
trwilson said
on 3/10/2009 depressive would be a good start. What methods, conversation starters or approaches can be used that are less likely to trigger a negative response? At the onset of depression, what steps can be taken by those around the sufferer to mitigate some of the effects on them as well as those around them? Explain why the sufferer seems to be able to control their behavior around co-workers and strangers in a supermarket, but feel absolutely no compunction to hold back on those with whom they have the closest relationships. I understand that this is a "disorder" - tell me how to cope with the manifestations of that disorder in daily life and practice.
trwilson said
on 3/10/2009 makings of a divorce and broken home in the making. To simply tell me that I need to understand that this is a "disorder" doesn't address this issue at all. At best, understanding that someone suffers from a disorder may allow one to replace anger with pity, but it does not even begin to explain how to live with the effects of emotional outbreaks and mood swings in any meaningful way. If a woman was in an abusive relationship, I hardly think your advise to her would be to "understand that the person abusing you has a 'disorder' and you need to remember that". It is no different for those of us who live with the results of being with someone who is "manic". It can be a form of abuse that, while not necessarily physical, can be more damaging and the effects more widespread than most seem to know. Perhaps, if someone wanted to be helpful, information on how to communicate with a manic depr
trwilson said
on 3/10/2009 As someone who lived with another suffering from manic depression for 20 years, I am disappointed that a video claiming to provide advise on how to live with someone who is manic depressive seems only to say that we need to recognize that the person suffers from a "disorder". Obviously, you have not had to live with anyone who has this condition. The constant feeling of "walking on egg-shells" so as not to set off an episode of depression or, worse, retaliation for a perceived wrong, is one of the hardest issues to deal with. The feeling that you are the problem, instead of a source of help, is equally difficult. Couple these with being closed off from the one experiencing the depression as they head off to another room, pull the covers over their head and remove themselves from the social responsibilities of family - as a husband or wife and father or mother - and you have all the makin