How to Deal with a Bad Breakup

Video Transcript

"Hi, my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you today, about how to deal with a bad breakup. If you're just coming out of a relationship, and the breakup was pretty messy, and hard on you, it can be very important to be able to process those feelings of being hurt, and why the relationship ended, and why it ended the way that it did, so try to find somebody who is willing to lend an ear, so that you can pour your heart out, and go over all the details, to your satisfaction, where you're happy with, well, if not happy, then satisfied that you understand what happened, and how things happened, and have been able to express, and let go of these feelings of negativity and anger, that you still might have, about a breakup that was pretty difficult. The next thing you should do however is, or in parallel to processing the difficulty of the breakup, is to make sure that you pick up your life, so you don't just wallow in misery, and not everything in your world stops, because you went through a bad breakup, so try to keep interested in the activities that you usually do, so go to school, go to work, keep active in whatever organizations or clubs or hobbies, or whatever it is that you had before. If you find that because of the relationship, or for another reason, you don't have too many of these, then now might be the prime time, to start participating in activities that you might be interested in, so the twofold advice here, is one, to allow yourself to process what happened in the relationship, by talking to somebody about it. Now, if you find that your friends have gotten sick of listening to you, about the breakup, then you can try writing it down. That often helps, and if that doesn't help you, if you still find that you cannot move on, you cannot move forward, then maybe it would be time to consult a professional, and go seek a therapist, but the other aspect of dealing with a bad breakup, is to keep busy, and to make sure that your life continues, and that you keep participating in your life, and you find, or reconnect with, activities that you enjoy."