How to Start a Conversation With Your Boyfriend

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and dating coach, and owner of NY Dating Coach here in New York City. In this clip, we'll talk about how to start a conversation with your boyfriend, and first off, I like to say no emotional hijackings. If it's something that you think is going to be a deep, intimate discussion or it's something that's really been bothering you, then schedule an appointment to talk about that. Give him a heads up of, "Hey, there's some things I'd really like to talk about. Could... When might be good for you to sit down and talk with me?" And if you really schedule the time, then you're both prepared for it, and you can prepare yourself to try to remain calm and try to keep your emotions out of it. Turn off the music or your cell phone and your Blackberry and the TV and all that kind of stuff, and really just focus on each other. And come from a place of love and what you're feeling. Don't blame him for anything. It's never his fault. It's not about what he's doing. It's about how you feel and how it's affecting you. And you can ask for what it is that you need from him, and not demand it. You can't make him do anything. You can only ask for what you want. So if you make it a loving thing, then it won't be a negative thing and you can discuss anything. That's a real relationship. This is Donna Barnes from New York City."