How to Stop Stalking

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and dating coach, and owner of NY Dating Coach here in New York City. In this clip, we'll talk about how to stop stalking. Now, if you are stalking someone, the first thing you need to do is acknowledge that that's what you're doing. If they're not returning your affections and they're not engaging all the things that you're doing and you're reading their emails or checking their Blackberry or, you know, looking...following them to see where they are and showing up where they are all the time, that's stalking. You need to cut it out. If you're not getting a reciprocation of your feelings and your actions, then it's a little bit of stalking. You need to stop it. You've got to respect someone else's boundaries, and make sure that what you're doing with them is appealing. And you're only stimulating yourself if you're checking their emails and things like that and figuring out things that they're doing -- that's really bad for you. You need to put your attention back on yourself and focus on you and what's best for you and don't be so worried about what they're doing. Now, if you've got someone stalking you, then you need to try not to engage that. You need to try to hold that boundary strong and keep them as much at distance and report it to somebody if you need to. It can get out of hand. This is Donna Barnes from New York City."