How to Stop Loving Her

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Beth Patterson. I'm a psychotherapist and grief counselor, and for this segment, we'll be talking about how to stop loving her. Easier said than done sometimes, isn't it? If you've decided that this relationship just really is not going to work, after you've done some good soul searching and really determined that, it's going to take awhile to stop loving her, and it's ok to continue loving her, even if you move on in some way. If it's been a long term relationship, we don't stop loving the people that have been in our lives. They'll still be there, in one way or another. Sometimes in a physical way, and sometimes just in our memory, and in our hearts, so keep that in mind, that you don't stop loving people, when a person you're close to dies, or when a beloved pet dies, you don't stop loving them, and really it's the same thing with a breakup. If it's been a good relationship in some ways, and it's ended for one reason or another, be kind to yourself, and if you still love that person, that's ok. It just might take a different form now, so it's ok to keep that person in your heart, to learn what you needed to learn from that relationship. You might even write a note of gratitude to that person, to be able to move on, and also to do some soul searching. Why did that relationship end? What did I learn from that relationship? How can I move forward? so it's not about stopping, it's about moving forward, so I hope that advice has been helpful to you. Best of luck moving forward."