How to Get a Guy to Know You are Girlfriend Material

Series Summary

Romance, some say, may not be an old concept in Western civilization. Our films are wont to add tumultuous love interests to ancient heroes like Beowulf, Achilles, Alexander, or Caesar, but many cultural theorists, textual experts, and sociologists have argued again and again that sexuality, which is the foundation for modern day romance, is a rather new creation of society, dating back merely a couple hundred years. According to many, romantic love, or the affection two souls generate when they find kindred spirits in one another, began in the French stories of knights and chivalry. More traditional research, however, claims to find evidence of romance and intimate love in all cultures throughout history. Truly, love is a strange and enigmatic thing. In this free video series on dating, a relationship specialist offers dating advice on how to understand men. Learn about the man's perspective of dating, and find out how to attract the right kind of guy. Find out if a guy is interested, and learn how to hold on to a great relationship. Bridge the gap between men and women with these helpful dating and relationship tips.

Video Transcript

"There is no substitute for class, so how do you get a guy to know that you're girlfriend material? This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating, and host of Ask Dr. Paul. Class is a variant, in terms of what class you're in. Let's talk about that. I have had women who are very much into country western. The clothing, the dancing, and they have the class that is responsive to that group. I've had people who are into classical music, and they have the class that's equivalent to that group, but every scenario has it's own element of class, and I think a part of that is, that you, in order to attract a man, as a woman, and let them know that you are girlfriend material, that you are not a butterfly. You're not flitting from flower to flower. You focus on a man. You keep aloof, and you're not making eye contact, with every clown in town. You need to be specific. A man will watch, then he'll say, Well, she's only looking at me, maybe she isn't interested only in me. If she's looking at every guy in the place, be it an event, be it a club, whatever. You are not girlfriend material. Another way is to not be overdone. Don't go out, and keep a profile that's so high, regardless of what strata you may be in, that it's going to be obnoxious. That is not indicating, that you're girlfriend material. Loud and obnoxious, usually doesn't get it. It may indicate that you have been drinking too much, so my suggestion to you, is to have some class within the realm that you're in, and you know what that's all about. There is no substitute for class, never has been, never will be. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today, be your realities of tomorrow."