Get Rid of Negative Behaviors in Relationships

Video Transcript

"All right. I have told you now that you need to be affirming and supporting and positive. So I want to talk to you, just briefly, about what these negative communication patterns are that we're probably going to be working on changing. You may not even know that they're negative. But withdrawing, never speaking about how you feel, pulling back. I'm not going to tell you. I'm never going to give you any approval. I'm never going to give you any positive reinforcement. But I'm going to hide within myself. I'm not going to tell you how I feel, or I'm going to lie about how I feel, or I'm just going to say nothing at all. That is negative communication, and that's what we're trying to get away from. So, as you begin to repair this relationship, you're going to have to start changing those negative patterns, no matter how difficult it is. And take baby steps. Don't feel like, all of a sudden I have to start expressing how I feel all the time. Take baby steps, one little thing at a time. And the reason that you don't want to do that is you don't know what you're going to get back. So, if you take little, tiny baby steps, you'll be able to see, hey I can do this. I can be affirming. I don't have to be negative. I don't have to withdraw and pull back. So just little steps, but you have to get rid of the negative behavior."