Recognizing the Relationship's Problem

"Ok, the first step that we want to consider if we want to try repair our relationship is really pretty obvious and let me just say at this point, when we're talking about relationships, we're not necessarily just talking about romantic relationships. This can be between best friends, this can be, I mean this could literally even be between neighbors, a boss, a co-worker, any kind of relationships that you have. The very first step, and sometimes even though this is going to sound really simple when I say it, sometimes this is the biggest part of the problem, recognize the problem. And sometimes people can't even recognize that there's a problem, they, they're really kind of unaware or they're in denial about the fact that there's a problem. They just maybe don't want to deal with it. So we're just going to act like everything's ok, but, obviously if there is angst between the two of you, there is a problem. And you have to recognize this problem and you have to do it on an intellectual level as well as an emotional level. Ok what is the issue here, and I can break that down in real simple terms that you're going to understand, head versus heart, intellectual versus emotional. My head is telling me one thing, my heart is telling me something else. Figure out what that is, recognize the problem."