Pace Self Disclosure in a Relationship

"Now, when you're listening to someone self-disclose, you want to be real careful to let them set the pace. And what I mean by that is maybe they want to reveal information gradually, or maybe they need to get all the information out. Usually, it's the other way around. It's you feel like you're having to pull information out of them. Be okay with everyone's individual level of self-disclosure. You don't ever want to harp on somebody, or pick on somebody, or beg somebody, or harass somebody to get the information out. "Come on and tell me, give me the information, I can't wait anymore, I don't have any more patience." So, allow that person to set the pace, and don't evaluate any of it. Don't evaluate; simply understand. If the person who is disclosing information to you wants their opinion, wants you to evaluate the situation, they will ask you; otherwise, your job is simply to listen and be empathetic."