How Not to Be Hurt by Angry People

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Brenda F. Dixon, I'm the owner of Life Help Now and we're here with Expert Village. We're talking about how to overcome anger. I told you the last time we were together that we were going to talk about rescue; what it means to rescue somebody. Somebody that's really hot tempered, you know, they are just flaring in your face or you're with them and you're just kind of tip-toeing on eggs that you don't want to say the wrong thing. Well, when I talked about rescue, I want to tell you a little bit more about rescuing. Rescuing is when you actually do for someone what they can do for themselves. So, we don't want to rescue someone, we want to let them take care of themselves. We take care of ourselves and that's the components that makes this whole thing lay out just right. So when you are with somebody and they begin flare, just take a step back, go to your patient position, stay in your gentle answer. Just move back, don't stay too close to them and that will help you know exactly what to do when you are in a situation where somebody is flaring. So, you want to protect yourself and you also don't want to hurt them but you don't want to hurt yourself. So to rescue someone it means, don't do for someone what they can do for themselves. And, it is very important to keep that rescue mode completely pulled back from them because you will get into a position where you are constantly rescuing them and constantly rescuing them. So, it's very important to remember when you are with a hot tempered person what to do."