Find Affirming Friends to Improve Self Esteem

Video Transcript

"Okay, now there's something tricky about affirmations. If you have low self esteem, and I'm telling you, you have to start telling yourself, if you think you're a bad person you have to start telling yourself you're a good person. Okay, well that's great, but if you think that you're a bad person, you might not be able to tell yourself that you're a good person. You might not be able to fake it till you make it. If that is the case, then what you must do is seek out people to give you affirmations but it's very important that you seek out safe people to affirm you. What we tend to do is we tend to seek out noxious people who tell us very negative things about ourselves. What you want to do is you want to find, even if it's just one person, maybe it's a husband, or a wife, or a brother, or a sister, or a neighbor, or a friend, or a boss, or a coworker, whoever it is, find that one person and allow them to give you affirmations. You know, let them know what you're doing, ask them questions about you. And, you know, so you say to them, 'Do you think I'm stupid?' and they say, 'Of course you're not stupid.' That must become your new affirmation. Well, I'm not stupid because Joe doesn't think I'm stupid. So, if you can't do it on your own, get someone to help you. But pick a safe person who is kind and considerate and is going to be able to see the positive in you and tell you about it."