Hi, it's Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, Clinical Psychologist and Author of the bestselling book, "A Happy You, Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness." And today, we're going to talk about body language when, when you're communicating with your peers, when you're interacting with your peers. First thing that I want you to remember that is utmost importance is be present. Be present in the conversation, be present in what's going on. And what that means is it starts not even on the outside, but on the inside, what you're saying to yourself. Have you been interacting with a peer and, and they're saying something and inside your head you're thinking about everything else, what you should be doing, what you got to do next, everything else; you're not listening to them. So, really, when you're interacting with your peers, really focus on them, look at them, clear out everything else that's in your mind so that you can really hear them. Be present and be mindful. And then, think about how you're being portrayed. If you're standing like this, you might be portrayed as someone whose, whose closed off or whose angry. Putting your hands down, using your hands to communicate, but not keeping yourself closed off. Think about your eyes; where are your eyes. Are they focus on that individual or they're drifting off somewhere else or they're checking your Crackberry. Looking at, figuring out your face. Some people when they're listening, they kind of have a frown on their face. That's probably not the, the, the way that you want to look towards your peers. So, make sure that your face has a smile or at least their neutral as they're talking to you. Think about how your body is positioned. So, if you're leaning forward, that's communicating to them that you're interested in what they're saying as oppose to back and kind of looking around. Think about how your body is standing. If you're standing tall, you come off as much more confident, with your shoulders down, shoulders back and head up. It comes across as much more confident. It's been said that the majority of our communication is in fact nonverbal. So, it's something that you really want to pay attention to as you're interacting with your peers or anyone else. My name is Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo. I hope this video was helpful; go to ahappyyou.com for more information.
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