Video: Boundaries When Dealing With an Ex-Husband

Boundaries When Dealing With an Ex-Husband

When dealing with an ex-husband, it is important to set up some clear boundaries in your relationship. Learn about boundaries when dealing with an ex-husband with help from a psychologist, physical therapist and group fitness instructor in this free video clip.

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Hi, it's Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, Clinical Psychologist and author of the bestselling book, "A Happy You, Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness." Today, we're going to talk about boundaries when dealing with your ex-husband. The first thing that you need to do when you're dealing with your ex-husband is to forgive him. Forgive him and that is not the other F word that's really important that you forgive him for what he did. It doesn't matter what he did. It doesn't mean you're going to let it happen again. It doesn't mean you're going to forget it. It doesn't mean you're necessarily going to reconcile with him, it simply means when you forgive him that you let go of that anger and resentment because you're not going to be able to have boundaries with your husband if you're still feeling really angry and you're also not going to be able to be effective in terms of moving on if you're still holding that resentment. So the absolute first step is to forgive him. People can forgive. It can be challenging. If you have trouble, please get the help that you need but first forgive him. The second thing to do is to establish the boundaries the two of you, communicate in terms of what expectations do you have, what expectations does he have and make sure that you both clearly understand what each other wants and then come up with an agreement. Agree as to what's going on. And then the third thing is to respect those boundaries. Make sure you're on time if you have to drop off the kids or pick up the kids. If there's an agreement that you're not going to have your significant other meet the kids until a certain amount of time, make sure that you actually abide by that. Respect the boundaries and he's going to be more likely to respect them too. So forgive, establish your boundaries and respect those boundaries and that will help you better deal with the situation. I hope these tips were helpful. Again, Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, Ahappyyou.com.

Boundaries When Dealing With an Ex-Husband

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