Comments on: How to Get the Men in Your Household to Put the Toilet Seat Down

on 3/8/2007 I used the following method:

Everyone needs a little extra boost of money in their lives and it is an actual feng shui detail. This was told to me by my boss and she said it has shown results in money and I told my live-in boyfriend who never puts the seat down about. They say that if you keep your toilet seat closed and the shower curtain pulled closed it will help ease financial stress. It is to help the feeling that money is being "flushed out". I told him about this and I noticed that immediately he stopped leaving the toilet seat up. Try it, it might work.

on 12/17/2006 I am a man, and I always put the seat back down, then flush; it's cleaner for your bathroom air, anyway. When you flush, if the lid is up, all of the particles in your waste go flying into the air! I actually don't understand why men have a hard time putting down the lid after going number one; what is so hard about it? Sheesh. I'd have to question what else they have a hard time doing if they can't simply put down a toilet seat and/or lid.

on 12/9/2006 As a man, I just want to understand this correctly....you want the seat down, so when you use the toilet, you won't sit on the rim? When I use the toilet, I use both the standing, and sitting positions, depending on the urge. Whenever I sit, I ALWAYS look first, is this a step that women fail to exicute, before doing their deed? I say to all men, put a sign above the toilet..."look before you sit"

on 8/8/2006 Instead of shouting and arguing, treat him when he does it that way you both get what you want!

on 3/23/2006 If men can learn how to put the toilet seat up. Women can learn to put it down.

on 2/21/2006 I'm 40 and have just looked this up on the web to see exactly what the problem was. I thought that maybe men were leaving the seat down and peeing through the hole which I could understand the consternation over. I know that the 3 women I grew up with and the 20 or so that I have lived with since (going out with and share housing), not to mention working in single toilet work places, have never mentioned anything and when asked aren't sure what the actual issue is. Now I find out I've been doing the (supposedly) wrong thing all along. And so the conclusion I draw is that contrary to popular belief most women in this world consider it a non issue and have the mechanical aptitude to operate a toilet seat - or perhaps I'm lucky - both of which are comforting thoughts. And I'm also somewhat more understanding of those blokes who leave toilet seats down when peeing through them in public toilets leaving urine on the seat as they must actually be rebelling against oppressive toilet seat regimes in their own households.

on 1/16/2006 Simply look at the position of the lid before you sit. If you are going to sit in a chair, you look to see if it's unoccupied, don't you? If you go to the bathroom in the night, use a night light. It's the responsibility of the person using the bathroom to make sure the toilet lid is in the appropriate position. If you are an adult, and do not look at the position of a toilet lid and fall in, it's your own fault. The same goes for anyone; regardless if you are a man or a woman. Women can put the lid down as well as a man can put it up.

on 1/5/2006 Toilet seats have lids so that they can be closed when not in use. Period. They aren't a decoration for the front of the tank. Not only is it sanitary, more aesthetically pleasing, it also prevents animals from drinking toilet water that usually hasn't even been flushed, it makes everything equal.
Everyone as to lift something every time they use it, everyone has to shut something every time they use it.
It's logical. No matter which side of the argument you are on, or how resentful you are about it, the problem is solved by using the appliance as it was meant to be used. With the lid down.

on 12/28/2005 It seems to me it's fair if both sexes put the seat and lid down after each use, as each sex then has to lift something and close something with each use.

on 11/22/2005 When I come into the bathroom I assume the toilet is what it is. If the seat is down I don't correct it. It's hypocritical to accuse the men of laziness in touching the seat when each time I walk in it's left without the lid down. If you don't close the lid, then you wind up with a wet seat. The default for the toilet is either lid down or seat up. You can leave the seat down, but that is precisely why I don't bother cleaning up when it's wet. You can't have your cake and eat it too. If you can't stand letting a man have his way, then just close the lid and we'll have to lift the seat. You're still on your own when it comes to putting the seat back down though.

on 11/22/2005 Appeal to his logic.
1) Toilet seats are unsanitary
2) Toilet seats may have germs from many people. Some maybe carrying a cold or flu bug.
3) Men have to have the toilet seat up sometimes, and down sometimes. They have to touch it.

on 11/22/2005 All my wife had to do was ask! From the day she asked I have been putting the seat down religiously.

Now, where is the eHow article - "How to get your wife to put down the toilet seat instead of complaining."?

on 11/22/2005 I was raised in a large family of 7 women and only 3 men. My father always made me put the toilet seat down at home when urinating, and of course cover the toilet (we had an outhouse). As an adult and husband, my wife has found the man that always lowers the seat! I also help clean up, and I encourage visitors to put the seat down when in my house. I do the same when visiting families with women in the household.

on 11/22/2005 Ask them if they have ever done a courtesy flush (probably not, but you can try). If they haven't, explain what it is. Also, graphically explain to them how there is a 'gentle spray' on one's backside. Explain that when the toilet is flushed, particles do become airborne. Then, show them the proximity of ANY toothbrush to the toilet. After that, tell them that the particles remain airborne for hours within a radius of six feet from the toilet.

on 11/22/2005 I would be interested in an article on how to get the woman in your life to leave the toilet seat up. In this age of supposed equality, why are we (men) catering to this caprice? We need it up, you need it down. Get over it! Why is this an issue for women but not for men? I don't get the impulse to embark on a crusade because my wife leaves the toilet seat down. I have enough confidence, security and self esteem as an individual that I don't need to make an issue out of something so trivial and unimportant. How would the feminist movement react to such an article if the roles were reversed? Think about this! Why is this an issue for women but not for men? If you want to be taken seriously, stop acting like a spoiled three year old.

My wife embarked on a crusade to correct this critical character flaw and I complied by closing both parts of the seat. Her initial reaction was not positive. What she wanted, in fact, was for me to prepare the seat for her convenience. You must be pretty insecure if you need to chase after this sort of detail. Your energy could be better harnessed towards more positive, constructive, pertinent and mutually constructive issues.