Comments on: How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Date Raped

on 10/8/2008 How can I help my friend if she doesn't want to get help after being raped? How can I help her, and what can be done to the guy that did it? She really doesn't want to report this...

on 6/30/2006 She needs to go to the hospital, no matter what. She may have suffered vaginal injury and should also seek emergency contraception. Filing a report with the police is also a necessity. No matter how embarrassed she may feel, she needs to file for the sake of protecting other women from this kind of man.

on 3/10/2006 People tell you that you should get help, and you should. But the first step is to calm yourself down, pull yourself together. Then go get help.

on 11/22/2005 Ask what you can do to help her. Don't force her to talk, let her tell you as much as she is comfortable with. Don't ever try to tell her what you would have done in the situation - it feels like being blamed for what happened. Tell her you care.

on 11/22/2005 Just like reporting a rape, the choice to seek counseling is also the sole choice of the victim. It's OK to encourage it, but never insist on it.