Comments on: How to Ask Someone to Be Your Girlfriend

on 11/22/2005 Tell her the truth, even if you have to write it down on a love letter--not mushy but honestly, as if you are talking to her. If she's coming out of a relationship, give her time to heal. Be there for her but not too much till it suffocates. Spend time to know her and give her a chance to know you. Play a little hard to get. Let her chase you instead. It's always the girls who chooses her man. If a guy makes it too obvious for her, it's no romantic challenge to her (too boring). The chase is where all the memorable passion and excitement peaks. Respect and listen to her too.

on 12/27/2007 Do this only if you know her or are VERY outgoing...

1. Go up to her and look her in the eye for a while.
2. Then she'll probably laugh and say hello, at which point you would swiftly envelop her in a massive hug. Make it a really good hug, with your arms all tight over her shoulders, middles touching, squeezing really tight.
3. Then pull out a little (not much, just enough so you can see her, about 6-10 inches away) and say something sweet. Someone said to me once "You're such a good hugger" and said it really honestly.
4. Then you can playfully nibble on her neck (which is really funny AND sexy, and it's really not as big a deal as it sounds because it tickles) or tickle her some other way, but not too much.
5. After you're done hugging, either grin and walk away, or say a few funny things, or grab her arm and make her stand next to you. If you're doing that, still keep touching her and flirting and nuzzling. If she doesn't want to, she hates you or is playing hard to get.
6. Repeat this a few times, maybe making the hugs longer, or raunchier by pinning her against the wall (playfully now, don't be weird and abusive). Then one day be really sweet, and lean in close and ask her if she'll be your girlfriend.

Here are a few extra tips:
*If she pats your back when you're hugging, she's nervous or wants you to go away.
*Always smell nice.

I swear this method works: When I first met my boyfriend, I thought he was a jerk, but I was still nice to him and then suddenly he started always doing this to me almost every day for a while. Then one day he wasn't there and I found myself missing him. Then the next day he asked me out (score!). This works on all ages, too.

on 12/22/2005 Make sure you like each other. That is, that you like to hang around each other, just as if you were both the same sex.

Make sure you respect each other. I'm saying that a person's virtues are greater than their flaws, in your eyes. What virtues? Honesty, trying persistently to get what you want, taking care not to unduly hurt others while pursuing your own values. Those are some of my virtues. Which ones matter to you?

Lust. You both have to be attracted to each other as males and females in order to talk about a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

I'd say that if you like each other, respect each other, and lust for each other, then if you both want a deeper commitment from each other (so that if either of you gets attracted to someone else, your first thought would be "No, I made a commitment" rather than going flirtation), discuss it.

One last thing: make it clear, if it's the truth, that you want to be friends no matter how the other person responds.

on 11/22/2005 It doesn't matter what you talk about...If she likes you and you like her, whatever you say will start a conversation that will lead to whatever you both want. So don't worry too much. Just enjoy the company. It won't feel awkward if she likes you.

on 11/22/2005 It may sound crazy, but get into an argument. It helps bring trust into the relationship.

on 11/22/2005 I changed the voice mail message on my cell and asked her to be mine. She responded and I immediately left for her house, handed her a rose, and kissed her right there!

on 11/22/2005 you learned this in elementary school, kids: HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY. Don't make up feelings because you think he/she has them. Tell your partner the truth... and the whole truth. If both of you are open about your feelings, there's much less guessing going on, which makes a commitment an easy thing to propose.

on 11/22/2005 Timing is everything. Take her mood, your mood, the kinda of day she's having...everything. Find out how things went for that day. Not only this eases your nerves, but it creates a comfortable atmosphere. If all the cards in in your hand, pop the question. Remember to keep it real!!! Don't joke around too much...she won't take it seriously. But don't be too serious, because that's not the impression you want to give. Afterward, cross your fingers and hope for the best! Good Luck

on 11/22/2005 Your ability to keep the pressure off while asking now, may keep the window of opportunity open for you later when that person is as ready as you are. Exclusive dating is a lot like marriage, you WILL have to agree with her on many things for the relationship to work.

on 11/22/2005 Don't think about it. If you are thinking too much then your ship is sunk. Just go for it, if you have some self-esteem then you shouldn't careabout what she says.

on 11/22/2005 BE NICE TO HER. ASK A FRIEND TO TELL YOU WHERE SHE LIVES. MAIL HER GIFTS AND LOVE LETTERS. AFTER A WEEK OR TWO, TELL HER YOUR TRUE FEELINGS.

on 11/22/2005 Wanna attract the girl you want?Just try not to look at her, and try to simulate that you don't feel anything special about her. My experience is that, this way, you create your own status. Try to show your calibre and look for chance to talk with her.

on 11/22/2005 Sex is great!! But you can wait ...

on 11/22/2005 It is better not to ask a girl out unless you are in a position to marry in the near future. You do not want to become overcommitted prematurely. Pray about it before you ask her to be your girlfriend.

on 11/22/2005 Guys, remember that your possible girlfriend may be dating somebody else. Find out all about this before you make your step. If it is so, be sure you want to separate them, if you can at all. :) Sometimes you can't ...