Comments on: How to Break Up Peacefully

on 11/22/2005 It's important that you don't try to soften the blow by saying things like, "You have nice eyes, a nice body, you're very attractive," because it'll only confuse the other person and make them wonder why you're actually breaking up. Just get to the point.

on 11/22/2005 If you are afraid of breaking up because you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings, then you are risking your feelings just to please someone else, just because you don't want to feel like the bad guy. Do what is best for you and the turn-out will be

on 11/22/2005 Unless it was a very bad breakup there is no real reason to stop being friends. It will feel awkward at first but just hang out with friends in a group.

on 11/22/2005 If you are breaking up with someone, never ask your friends how they would do it. Use your own words and express your feelings because friends will only tell you what to say based on THEIR feelings of that person. Make it true and honest from the heart.

on 11/22/2005 Tell them! Don't disappear, ignore or avoid them. Give the relationship the dignity of an ending even if you can't explain your change of heart. Breaking up is hard but leaving someone wondering what happened or if it is really over is unforgivable!

on 11/22/2005 Make sure that it's something you really want or need to do. This is not something to be taken lightly.

on 11/22/2005 After you and your significant other part, hang out with your best buds and always remember that you have friends!

on 11/22/2005 Don't leave your ex thinking that you are still together, especially if you leave the state. It only prolongs the hurt. Also, don't buy a house with your partner if you are considering leaving. I don't think I need to go into the whys of that.

on 11/22/2005 Once you think of breaking up, do it, because if you think about it for a long time it could affect you. They can always tell when your feelings change and they might just dump you and make you feel more stupid.

on 11/22/2005 If you start thinking that you miss the person, ask yourself if you miss the actual person or if you just miss having someone that cares about you.

on 11/22/2005 If you're on the recieving end of the breakup, realize that trying to talk the person out of it won't work, it will only make it worse. It will bring up confusion and doubt and you don't want that.

on 11/22/2005 Make sure you also give your partner a chance to express his/her feelings and really listen. He/she has feelings too.

on 11/22/2005 Try not to contact each other that much after break up because you get even more confused and what you don't see won't hurt you.

on 11/22/2005 Remember, you're a worthwhile person and that life goes on. Don't hang on to the past.