Comments on: How to Break Up Peacefully

on 11/22/2005 Your boyfriend/girlfriend obviously doesn't like you any more if they're about to dump you. Instead, dump them!! Then, go buy shoes!!

on 11/22/2005 Think about what you're about to do. If both of you have serious feelings for the other, there is no reason to break up. Make sure that both of you are clear on the decision you're about to make and why you are deciding to do what you are.

on 11/22/2005 If your boyfriend/girlfriend decides to break up with you, and you agree to end the relationship, get over them. Don't keep living your life based on the fact that you still love him or her.

on 11/22/2005 The longer you don't call or see each other, the easier it gets. It's horribly hard at the start, but even 3 or 4 straight days of no contact shows you that life goes on without your ex.

on 11/22/2005 I recently broke up with someone I really felt connected with. I sent him a basket of items that represented all that I felt connected to and asked him to accept these things as closure. Each item had a special meaning. We are still friends.

on 11/22/2005 Once you break up with someone and both agree to see other people don't actually think that this is a chance for you to jump into another relationship. You should wait awhile before dating anyone else. This shows a sign of respect to your ex.

on 11/22/2005 Don't just say it and hang up or walk away. Explain nicely, and take time to answer the other person's questions. It will make the breakup much easier.

on 11/22/2005 Do not let anyone ever convince you otherwise! Be yourself throughout the entire breakup, state your reasoning, and keep the breakup short - 20 minutes maximum! You don't want to pour salt on the wound.

on 11/22/2005 Say something like, "I wanna be honest because I respect your personality and admire your looks, but we don't get along the way an ideal relationship for me does, so I know it'd be better to end it now." It works.

on 11/22/2005 Don't cheat. They will always find out and the aftermath is not worth it!

on 11/22/2005 Don't start out with, "We need to talk," or, "Things aren't working out," because then they know what's coming. Also never use, "We should just be friends," or "It's not you, it's me." The other person will know you just had nothing better to say to them.

on 11/22/2005 There is no easy way to break up with someone. Be blunt, but not rude. No matter how you do it, it will still hurt the other person.

on 11/22/2005 Never, ever break up through mail. It doesn't give the other person a chance to speak their mind, and that's just unfair! If you are too cowardly to tell it to a person's face, you don't deserve to have a relationship.

on 11/22/2005 It's important that you don't try to soften the blow by saying things like, "You have nice eyes, a nice body, you're very attractive," because it'll only confuse the other person and make them wonder why you're actually breaking up. Just get to the point.

on 11/22/2005 If you are afraid of breaking up because you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings, then you are risking your feelings just to please someone else, just because you don't want to feel like the bad guy. Do what is best for you and the turn-out will be