Comments on: How to Break Up Peacefully

on 3/30/2006 Only proceed to break up with someone if you are confident that it is for the better and you will be happier without them. Don't leave them just for kicks.

on 12/16/2005 If you are the one being broken up with, don't ask why. You're just making it worse. Just accept and then be ready to talk about it later. Walk away not with a smile but with your head high.

on 1/6/2006 Take her somewhere nice. Buy her something. Then tell her what's on your mind. Break it to her nicely. That always works.

on 11/22/2005 Always tell the truth as to why you are walking away. Don't leave the other person clueless as to why you are breaking up. Especially if it happens all of a sudden. And no matter how peacefully or nicely you break up, at the end of the day there is always one who is going to be miserable.

on 11/22/2005 Be calm about it. If you act outraged or torn up, the other person will feel uncomfortable and sometimes say the wrong things. Be considerate to each other, and let your true feelings flow.

on 11/22/2005 You must try and give your reasons, but sometimes you just have to walk away (depending on the sanity of the person you're dealing with). The women I've been with in the past gave me no choice, they were rude, psychotic, manipulative, and bossy.

on 11/22/2005 Be 100% sure of how you feel about the person before you decide to go beyond the friendship you once had! The breakup will not be easy (especially after 4 days) and also the friendship you once had might be ruined! Think it all through! It's not worth breaking up something special, especially if you're not sure if you like the person.

on 11/22/2005 If your ex broke up with you because they were messing around with someone else, and you had already messed around with someone else, then don't feel bad about the breakup. The relationship would have been hard on both of you anyway. Ask yourself - Is it better to be loved and hurt in the end? Or to not have been loved at all?

on 11/22/2005 Breaking up with someone is almost worse than being dumped, so it really doesn't matter if you do it through e-mail, over the phone, or in a café or park. It really doesn't hurt any less to have it said to you in person. Just allow the other person a chance to have a dialog and closure about the break up, through whatever medium. Be honest about the causes for the break up, give the person plenty of forewarning before you even think of ending it, and if the break up is inevitable, be gentle, but honest. Don't say "It's not you; it's me." or "I'm not into a serious relationship right now." These are lines, and they're more disrespectful than saying, honestly, "You and I have different values, and I need someone who shares the same values," or whatever. Don't be mean, just do it.

on 11/22/2005 The best thing to do when it's over is to take some time to "find yourself" by whatever means possible. Try not to rush into anything new with someone else thinking it will help ease the pain and lonliness because that never works out and it's not fair to the new one. Also, even if you say your going to be friends when it's over, it's best to take a VERY long break from contact with that person until wounds heal because it's going to be harder otherwise. Make sure you get out of your sight all things that remind you of that person. I sent my ex all his clothing he left at my house back to him and put all his gifts in a box and hid them in the closet. Sometimes it's even best to throw the gifts away,. Just find out who you are and what your looking for in a person before jumping back into somthing.

on 11/22/2005 If the other person truly loves you, and your decision will be a shock to them, try to be more flexible. While a clean break is sometimes best, such a move can be devastating if the other person has built their life around you. Consider taking a two-week break instead of ending it right away. It's not prolonging the agony, the person will be miserable and shocked regardless. You owe it to them, and maybe yourself too, to take the time to think about it. Two weeks gives them a chance to brace themselves for the breakup. Don't disregard this option just because you want to move on. They will be in more pain than you, and it's the least you can do.

on 11/22/2005 I'm breaking up with my fiance because she lied to me (went out with another guy). I still love her so much but I know it will never be the same. I'm taking her out to a nice dinner and telling her very softly. Hope it works!

on 11/22/2005 I lived with him and allowed him to make me feel bad for feeling this way. So, I bought a condo and was locked in to moving out. It was still hard, but I had the commitment behind me.

on 11/22/2005 Don't keep telling them about the breakup. Try to stay as far away as possible, but be willing to talk about it if he or she feels like talking.

on 11/22/2005 A part of you knows what to do. Follow it.