Comments on: How to Break Up Peacefully

on 3/8/2008 If only it was that easy! Ha!

on 3/8/2008 If only it was this easy! Ha!

on 7/17/2007 I believe you have to Love yourself more, and be honest about how you "truly" feel in your relationships. Sometimes people stay too long when they should've left a long time ago. Just REAL TALK as A REAL WOMAN http://www.blogtalkradio.com/myspacecom-nettablack

on 5/25/2007 IF THERE IS ABUSE - If you are leaving an abusive relationship, you will need to be well prepared beforehand, and well protected during and afterward. By far the most common time for an abusive man to kill his partner is when she tries to end the relationship.

1. Make sure that you have an "emergency kit" prepared in advance. This should include keys, ID (for yourself and your children!), money, important receipts or other documents, and contact information. Also have ready an overnight bag with clothing, medications, snack foods, etc. If you can get your emergency kit and overnight bag out ahead of time, that might turn out to be very helpful if you have to make a very quick escape.

2. Inform your Family Services or Welfare office, and/or your local Women's Centre or Crisis Centre in advance. Ask them for advice and protection.

on 3/11/2007 I have been with my boyfriend for 8 ears. Early on, we were both in bands and basically just lived together. He spent a lot of time by himself and played video games. Later (~ 3 yrs ago), I tried to break up with him. I met someone else, but this new guy was a complete loser. I left the new guy, but my boyfriend still wanted to be with me. He begged me to stay with him. I was ready to be alone for a while, but I felt sorry for him. He cried and drank a lot (he always drinks a lot). He bought me roses every day. So, I stayed with him. I had to move several times because of my job, but he always followed me. I have four dogs, and he loves them. Now, he has lost his job and basically living off of me. I am no longer physically attracted to him. He is a nice guy, but he has no ambition to better his life. I hate being the only source of income. He smells really bad in the mornings too (we no longer sleep in the smae room). I know I am rambling, but I am afraid he will kill himself if I kick him out. He has no job and very little money. I am ready to end it, but he is not. What should I do?

on 1/18/2007 There is only one problem with this, if you are with a man that won't listen to you if and when you do break up, what do you do. I tried breaking up with him before (keyword:TRIED). It only ended up with me crying my eyes out and getting angry at him for not allowing me to explain and answer questions. He came to my house later and wanted his things, guilting me to get back with him. I really wanted to end it but I didn't want to hurt him. He treats me like crap yet I still can't break up with him. Now, everytime I feel like I can, he says something sweet, making me feel horrible. In this case, I'm stuck. I have no where to go and no advice can help me. I don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't want to hurt him. I know I'm not the only one out there that deals with a guy like mine.

on 9/8/2006 If you want to end your relationship, make sure that this is what you really want because it might hurt you in the end.

on 9/5/2006 It really depends on what position you want to take. Here are some of my experience:
1. Get him prepared - Let him know about your feeling and why you think it won't work. Keep complaining (man hates it) Then leave him after a period of time (about 2 months). Both of you won't hurt as much.

2. Let him make the decision - women all know how to annoy man. Find out what it is and ask him 'If you don't do xxxxx, I will not call/see you again.' He would think it was him who dumped you. What he didn't know is that you had already made up your mind before giving the options.

3. Make life hell for him. Honest, I would not suggest this unless the other person get really annoying. Just do every thing he hates and he would start to realize it doesn't work.

on 9/3/2006 If both of you have different ways of thinking, or couldn't accept him/her or his/her nature anymore, then you really have to sit and think deeply before you make any decision. If you think you have to end it, then just do it. Acknowledge him straight forward, but in a polite way. Give rational reasons, explain what makes you to come to this decision. Tell him you won't forget all the positive parts that had gone through together and they will remain as sweet memories. Explain to him firmly that both of you can no more get along no matter what.

on 8/9/2006 Never allow his friends to say hello and talking about the person who broke up with you! It makes the person still feel like there is hope on getting back together, and using his friends to get useful information to see if you are still hung up on them.

Never break up on the phone, it's shows no respect, and interaction face to face is more important then a machine.
Sometimes break-ups end on good terms and you can still remain friends. When you've had time apart, you may even get back together.

Stay positive and get on with your life eg. movies, dinner with friends, exercise. And most important, make yourself happy first!

on 8/8/2006 Take the time to meet the person face-to-face and truthfully tell them how you feel. It will help provide closure. Don't act like you want out of the relationship for weeks and then do it. If you are in a relationship you are in a relationship, if you want out, get out. Don't prolong, waste time or confuse. Be fair.

on 6/30/2006 Don't break up late at night! I started having the talk around 9 PM on Sunday (hoping that heading off to sleep may calm her emotions), but we ended up talking till 3 AM and she cried all night. I was worn out and sad the next day. In retrospect, a Saturday afternoon would have been a better choice.

on 3/22/2006 If you really need to go and the other really wants you to change your mind, sometimes (not always) causing pain might be the solution. I'm not saying be mean, but I am implying that you need to hurt them now, to save them for long term pain.

This is only for those with people that are really obsessed about you and won't even let you breathe out of their sight. If you leave them, they will suffer long term pain and won't even sleep enough. In fact, they won't even stop bugging you about going back to them.

What you need to do is cause a whole storm in them to force all the feelings the person has for you out of them and let them recover earlier. Talk about all the pain you've gone through. Talk about all the reasons why you must do it. Talk about how hopeless it is. Basically, be temporarily mean to them so they stop the flame quicker and accept the break up. Do it while breaking up, and do it at your own risk. Don't do it after you broke up, because that will just span the pain more. It is mean, but it saves them from what is known as false hope and you from hurt of leaving again and again.

on 3/30/2006 Only proceed to break up with someone if you are confident that it is for the better and you will be happier without them. Don't leave them just for kicks.

on 12/16/2005 If you are the one being broken up with, don't ask why. You're just making it worse. Just accept and then be ready to talk about it later. Walk away not with a smile but with your head high.