Comments on: How to Handle a Breakup

on 11/22/2005 Get out and do more fun things. Meet new people, get to know acquaintances better. It'll help build up your self-confidence, which is what you need.

on 11/22/2005 If you are always thinking about your ex, you have far too much time on your hands. Get active and try to follow your dreams. Try getting a job and going out more.

on 11/22/2005 Don't sit around thinking about how you will wait for your true love. Instead, do things that have no romantic implications at all. It helps to have a girls only or guys only night. Mushy topics are off limits.

on 11/22/2005 Be mature and understanding about why they want to break up, even if it makes no sense. Never settle for anyone who doesn't meet your standards; it will never work! Give yourself time to heal, then realize how great you are & go live life to the fullest.

on 11/22/2005 You don't have to stop loving him/her. Don't try to win him/her back. You will be together again, if you are meant to. Now it's time to do things that you didn't do before(though not crazy things). And don't forget, love is one of the best feelings.

on 11/22/2005 Crying, through your tears, gets rid of natural toxins in your body that cause poor health, depression and sickness. So go ahead! Have a few major meltdowns - you'll be suprised at how much better you feel!

on 11/22/2005 Time will heal your spirit. You
were attracted to the person in the first place. Thinking that a different person will eliminate your pain will doom you to repeat it. Take your time before you date again to see where your initial decision went wrong.

on 11/22/2005 Write a letter and tell him or her every problem they had and caused, why he/she was a complete jerk. But never send it. Then write a letter honoring the love you were so unhappy to lose. That letter is like a eulogy where you say goodbye. Send it.

on 11/22/2005 Get a new haircut (guys, too) or try tinting your hair a different color. When you feel good about yourself, it will in turn make you more positive around others. Being and remaining positive is a key to getting over a breakup.

on 11/22/2005 Don't try to get into another relationship right away. When you break up, don't talk to him. It will make you feel as if you did something bad. And the right person will come along. Trust me.

on 11/22/2005 Some things are better off left unknown. Don't try to "accidentally" run into your ex or ride by their known "spots" to catch a glimpse of what they're doing or who they're with. Leave the past in the past and move on; you can bet that they are.

on 11/22/2005 After a breakup you may feel that no one understands. Even though talking to your friends is helpful, getting in touch with a counselor (I went to see one at my university) can help ease the pain. They can look at things from an unbiased standpoint.

on 11/22/2005 Sometimes when we are having difficulties with him, we let him talk us into staying, or our friends talk us into leaving. Don't listen to anyone but yourself; after all, you are the one in the relationship and only you know how you really feel.

on 11/22/2005 If you're hurting, don't sit & wait for the call & alienate the world. Don't be waiting and hoping that they will call or come by; you will hurt even deeper than you know. You need to stay busy & focused. If it's meant to be it will be, on it's own time!

on 11/22/2005 Don't take the breakup personally if you were the one being dumped. Keep in mind that there are a lot of good-looking single people out there looking for someone as nice and beautiful (or handsome) as you. Don't have sex with the first person you see!