Comments on: How to Handle a Breakup

on 11/22/2005 Whatever you do, don't call him, try to avoid him, and do the things you always wanted to do. But don't try a rebound relationship - it won't work.

on 11/22/2005 When you realize you don't want to be with the person anymore, you need to call it quits soon. I postponed breaking up with my boyfriend and while we were dating, I was offered a job out of state that I only dreamed of. I was dumb and didn't take it because I didn't have the courage to move on. All because I never had the courage to break up with him when I felt I was ready. I'll regret that moment in my life forever. Needless to say, we aren't together, but that should have happened a while ago. He wasn't worth sticking around for.

on 11/22/2005 Try to forgive yourself. Say it out loud or do it in writing. Forgive him for what he has done to you specifically. You don't need to tell him face to face if you don't feel like it. Learn to forgive him, and forgive yourself again and again until you feel you have no more resentment towards him and your unfortunate relationship. This will make you more ready to face another relationship or begin a new life without him. I'm still trying it now and somehow it works. Not much, but it's good for a start.

on 11/22/2005 I figure why waste my time moaning about it in self pity when I could be having FUN! Sometimes letting go is the only way to come around.....Just don't get too serious too quickly trying to fill the void with a new partner. It will get ugly quick. - John

on 11/22/2005 Pick a movie with your favorite break-up scene and watch it until your bored with the misery. I watched "Waiting to Exhale" (esp. the clothes dumping, car burning scene) nightly while I worked on a charity project for almost a month. After that the whole misery thing just seemed rediculous. My charity project helped me remember that there are more important things in life (and made me SMILE!).

on 11/22/2005 Don't allow any form of communication, including e-mail! Block their addresses if you have too, once it's over, they have to accept it. If they didn't know how to appreciate you when they had you, will they appreciate you any more if you went back to them? Don't do it!

on 11/22/2005 I know it's hard to motivate yourself to do anything when your sad, but try to keep busy to keep your mind off things, exercise, go out with friends, take classes etc, trust me it helps.

on 11/22/2005 I always punch something after a breakup. I just went through one. After I hit something (not a person), I feel much better. Don't be like me, though - hit something soft. A broken hand hurts just as much as your feelings do after a breakup.

on 11/22/2005 Let him/her know how you feel. If there are some things that you want him/her to know, spill. Keeping it inside only makes matters worse. The biggest pain there is is the one inside.

on 11/22/2005 Never go out with someone else right away. You most likely will just want to fill in the space that your ex left with you. I know you may want to be with someone, but the rebound relationship usually doesn't work out.

on 11/22/2005 Before you two met, you were amazing and impressive and beautiful/wonderful. That's how you caught his/her eye. You are still that! You are still that person that attracted him/her, so go out there and continue to be the awesome person you are!!

on 11/22/2005 Get out and do more fun things. Meet new people, get to know acquaintances better. It'll help build up your self-confidence, which is what you need.

on 11/22/2005 If you are always thinking about your ex, you have far too much time on your hands. Get active and try to follow your dreams. Try getting a job and going out more.

on 11/22/2005 Don't sit around thinking about how you will wait for your true love. Instead, do things that have no romantic implications at all. It helps to have a girls only or guys only night. Mushy topics are off limits.

on 11/22/2005 Be mature and understanding about why they want to break up, even if it makes no sense. Never settle for anyone who doesn't meet your standards; it will never work! Give yourself time to heal, then realize how great you are & go live life to the fullest.