Comments on: How to Handle a Breakup

on 11/22/2005 If you're a co-dependent personality, and you depend on someone you don't match - end the relationship. If you cry more than you smile - end the relationship. If your heart still stops when you see him, you still did the right thing.

on 11/22/2005 If someone breaks your heart, of course you'd feel terrible, but I guess time does heal everything. Give yourself time and permission to cry it all out. hen, keep yourself busy by doing something you enjoy or something that makes you feel good. Praying makes you feel better too. Have faith. Be strong. It's not the end of the world. There are still people who love you. Like your family, your friends and your God.

on 11/22/2005 When the pain seems unbearable, don't be afraid to let go and have a cry. Letting out your pent up sadness and anger can exorcise the demons haunting you. Remember, you are an amazing person and although you don't realize it, you have made someone happy. They wont forget you, you are simply no longer a unit. One day someone will take your pain away and you theirs. :)

on 11/22/2005 Allow yourself to remember the good times, especially if you've been together for a long time. They loved you, dearly and truly, all their feelings for you were genuine, as were yours for them, even if it finished darkly. They will find someone else and start a different and new relationship, but you will always mean something to them. Don't erase a beautiful time in your life from your memory just because something has finished, but get excited because a new relationship and life adventure will begin for you soon. Love is as perennial as the grass.

on 11/22/2005 If you just aren't getting over things well on your own, I would suggest:
1) Venting to all your most trusted friends, and maybe even those you didn't know cared so much.
2) Read this site everyday if you have to! Every time I feel down I come and read at this site and it reminds me that I am special. Remind yourself of that as often as you need.

on 11/22/2005 Even though it will be hard, don't be sad. Your friends won't want to be around a sad person. They would find it amazing that you can handle things well if you just be happy and have fun! Then they will look up to you and maybe they will start being happy after tragic things happen, too.

on 11/22/2005 Keep in mind that breakups can be just as hard on the dumper as they are on the dumpee. Don't place a guilt trip on the person who dumped you. It only makes things worse for the both of you.

on 11/22/2005 It's not easy to move on, especially when you love that person so much. I just lost the love of my life. Distance and no communication were the cause. All those feelings you feel right now are normal, but you have to be strong and you will be OK. Love brings us pleasure, but it also comes with pain, that's how you know that true love was there; even if now it's gone.

on 11/22/2005 list all the annoying things about them and remember that the new partner will have to put up with all those things and not you any more! - for me it was her horrible mother!!!!

on 11/22/2005 Be careful b/c your ex will almost always call again. It usually happens when they sense you have moved on. And, if you have, try your hardest not to let them bring you down. Be patient, let time run it's course....no one can predict the future. But always remember getting back together is easy, its moving on that is the hard part.

on 11/22/2005 After the break-up take a little break. Don't jump right back into another relationship. Sit down and think about what went wrong in that relationship. This will not only pass the time quickly, you may also realize the break up wasn't such a bad idea.

on 11/22/2005 You shouldn't try to sit and think about the good things that went on in the relationship, or the fun times you had. That will just make you wonder why he would do what he did to you after all the fun you had. Instead you should hang out with your close friends and find something exciting to do to keep your mind off of it.

on 11/22/2005 If the other one forces you to do something, which you are not entirely sure will bring happiness to you in the future, or when you analyze it you find that it will not be easy for you, then don't do it! Even if it means dumping your partner. Making sacrifices doesn't count when every thing becomes messy in the end.

on 11/22/2005 Always remind yourself of the reasons why you wanted to break up. My ex was rude and very self-important. He wasn't really interested in my life. I was always interested in his well-being but he wasn't there for me when I was down or having a rough time. If he isn't there for you - dump him and move on to gain your own life back.

on 11/22/2005 If you are the one who got dumped, don't sit around and cry all day. Try to accept the reality of the break up, and move on. Go to the gym, play a sport, do something that you like to do. From my experience, never try to call them back and try to turn things around. It will hurt your self-esteem.
If they are not with you anymore, it happened for a reason. Remember that if things are meant to happen, then they will be in your life once again. Also, try to learn what you might have done wrong in the relationship by writing a pros and cons list in your journal. You deserve better, don't go begging them to come back. Good luck.