Comments on: How to Handle a Breakup

on 3/28/2008 Anonymous: I so agree with you. I broke up with my boyfriend I was miserable and it took me a long time to finally have some self respect and realize he wasn't going to change. Once I was out of the relationship I realized a lot and noticed how bad the relationship was and that I was working so hard to fix the relationship for the two of us. I realized that I will never be in a relationship where I was so miserable and felt that all the issues were me again. I got to my lowest point where I was begging him and calling him fifty million times and then I just realized you know what this is pathetic and not me. I don't deserve to be ignored and I want someone who is willing to work at things. It's been a month so far and it has been hard but I am so thankful where I am at today and I hope that all of you who are going through this heart ache will realize...if you are sad and miserable in a

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on 11/5/2007 hmm. i just broke up for about two weeks now. still cant believe i had broken up wit my gf for 5 yrs. wow..imagine that man, 5 years if ur married u could get a 2nd child maybe(depends heh). i just cant believe that shed move on , n now she been seeing this new guy, i was thinking, wow.,so soon 2 get a new one huh? i just cant forget her. cant believe that she'd move on. our r/ship is not tht love is not enough but love itself aint enough. like stability in career,financial , etc. im younger by 2 years than her. she's a houseman in a local hospital,n me? im still a full time student doing some freelance. she feels insecure n uncertain bout the future. im her 1st n vice versa. it aint easy to let go. even if i try 2 nt to think of her, i still thinks of her. why? why? why? coz im so used to her, everyday for the past 5 years. its a mutual breakup though. i feel i really want her back, bu

on 9/6/2007 I have very best friend. We knew each other for 6 years. He was there with me whenever i need him for supportive or any other stupid things of me. 2 years ago, we had a relationship with no commitment. I thought I was OK with that. We are very happy together. So i never ask for commitment. After a couple of months we had been together, i fall in love to him. But he didn't, he said he just likes me very much. So, i thought as long as we are happy, i am fine with that. I was trying to pull out myself not to love him deeply. We had been back and forth for 2 years now, our relationship still remain in non-commitment. But both of us care each other feelings very much. I am still working hard to forget him, and today, i got a news that he got a better job offer in Canada. He is leaving after 2 weeks. I'm very happy that he finally got a better job offered. But at the same time, i am sad.

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on 5/23/2007 I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a week ago, he decided to get back with the mother of his child and it is so hard for me to get over it i think these are the things i need to do for me to get over him.

on 4/23/2007 I found this site purely by chance when my relationship of 7 years ended. To say that reading everyones advise, tips and comments has saved my lift - is an understatement.

Whilst misery loves company, I have found the postings and people on the site to be inspirational and uplifting. I'm certainly not over the relationship with Paul, but I think I might be coping better with the stress, hurt and distruction he has left behind (and not for the first time).

I even printed off the comments on this site so that whenever I feel shakey I can get a quick fix by just reading some of the comments to make myself feel a little better.

I'm trying to put into practice all the advise and tips offered and as a result have booked myself a holiday to Italy - the first in 7 years!

Thank you to all of you for sharing.

on 2/23/2007 - Write out your feeling (never hold them in), talk to friends, avoid him if you can, spoil yourself with a massage. Just keep busy. In time you'll come to realize that you & this person were just not mean't to be. Everyone deserves someone who thinks their the best thing in the world. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be loved, and their is nothing like romantic, passionate love when it is reciprocated. Dwelling on something that can't be changed just wastes precious time. If you start to feel angry, workout or meditate. Don't ever think that talking to him will make you feel better. You have to avoid any possiblity of being rejected again, hurt, or humiliated. It's just putting off the inevitable anguish that will return, because your still not together. As time passes you will feel stronger, and more confident in yourself. You have to take control of your life in order to be able to find the person that will walk to the end of the earth for you. You are worth being loved, and never forget it. Have faith in fate.

on 1/31/2007 Don't call or contact him. Block his emails, calls, and all. Let go and move on. If he really cared about you he wouldn't have hurt you the way he did. One of the best ways to get the guy to feel is by ignoring him and making yourself stronger and better. So after sometime when he sees you at some place or something, he'll feel regretful. When he sees you moved on and more confident and happier, it will send an uneasy signal to him. Forget about him. Plus there are plenty of fish in the sea, the right one will come.
If you want to stay single, that's fine too, just enjoy your life and do things you want. Don't let some guy try to get you to be depressed and all. Be strong. You don't need a man to keep you happy, but rather you doing what you love in life.

on 1/31/2007 Don't call or contact him. Block his emails, calls, and all. Let go and move on. If he really cared about you he wouldn't have hurt you the way he did. One of the best ways to get the guy to feel is by ignoring him and making yourself stronger and better. So after sometime when he sees you at some place or something, he'll feel regretful. When he sees you moved on and more confident and happier, it will send an uneasy signal to him. Forget about him. Plus there are plenty of fish in the sea, the right now will come.
If you want to stay single, that's fine too, just enjoy your life and do things you want. Don't let some guy try to get you to be depressed and all.

on 1/26/2007 the best advice i can give is to get used to the idea that his gone don't fool yourself and pretend he'll come back because most likely he won't, grieve, cry its all acceptable but don't make the mistake to call him and make a fool out of yourself you'll only look desperate, he'll lose respect for you and after you come back to your senses pass the madness and temporary insanity you'll have one less thing to regret.

on 1/23/2007 Do not call him - ever, at all. Keep your head up, let go, move forward. Take care of yourself. Even it takes a minute at a time to get through the day, do not call him. If he wanted to talk to you, he would have called you. You would only feel worse for calling, remember. Stay healthy and think of yourself and keep your self-respect.

on 1/23/2007 Absolutely do not call him or contact him, especially if you are the dumpee. He made his choice and you will only humiliate yourself and end up feeling worse about yourself. If you already called - stop, and do not do it again. Do not beat yourself up, just stop. Keep your head up and take each minute at a time. Let go, keep busy, get healthy and stay focused on yourself and maintain your self respect by not calling him.

on 10/25/2006 BLOG IT!!!!- If you have a MySpace or MSN Space or something that your previously significant other might be aware of, use that as a means to vent your feelings. In a sadistic way, they will often have a curiosity to see if you've added new friends or if you've changed your status to "single, etc... It is pretty clear that contacting, callilng and begging never has the intended outcome. However, if it's on a blog, THEY have to be the one to take the initiative to read it and it is not you reaching out to them!!! it's perfect. You get the therapeutic benefit of putting your feelings into writing and if they do care about you or are interested in checking on how you are doing they will get what you want to say without you being the freak. Maybe your deepseated feelings and interpretations of what went on will be communicated in a way that makes them think twice also. If it truly was meant to be they'll come to their senses.

In addition, if you have the ability to make it so only she/he can read, it might save you the ribbing from your other readers.