Comments on: How to Create a Successful Marriage

on 11/11/2008 Wow! Great simple steps to create a loving marriage that does not run out of intimacy. I will read this again.

on 8/8/2006 Too often you hear a friend or relative speak negatively about their mate when they are not there, or belittle them even when they are there. What may be intended as fun sarcasm can still hurt. Show the relationship the respect it deserves by only speaking of your mate in a positive light to others.

on 8/7/2006 Don't try to change your partner. This is a common mistake that hurts both parties. Men and women seem to have two very different views on marriage. Of course this is just in general. Men are hunters. They love the chase that comes with dating. Then comes marriage. They have the woman they were chasing and now what? He will wake up to her face for the rest of his life and the thrill is gone. His choice is to look elsewhere or continue with the boredom.

Women are nurturers. They go through dating looking for Mr. Right, or at least one that will do. When the nurturer marries the hunter and the hunter gets bored and unromantic, the nurturer tries to "make him better", hoping to make the marriage better.

Both parties want to change the other. My advice is to love love. You were lucky enough to be the one your partner wanted to declare their love to. Remember your wedding day. If needed, look at pictures or the video. We have one life. Don't waste it comparing your partner to someone else. Love them and love the love you share, and if you must change someone, start with yourself. Be the best you can be every day and the rest will fall into place.

on 8/7/2006 It's tough to feel affectionate when your partner and you are going through a rough time, but remember that only "hurt people hurt people." If your partner is lashing out or distant, try to be compassionate. It's these times when it feels the most awkward that your partner needs your love and support. Say I love you and offer some physical touch. This will break down those walls and strengthen their trust. Remember to always say you're sorry for things you've done wrong, even the little things. It's a great habit to get into.

on 11/22/2005 Tell your spouse often how much you appreciate them for all that they do. Date, laugh, love, worship, cherish the time you have together. Remember the good things, but don't dwell on the negative. Make new memories to take the place of not-so-good ones. Forgive, forget and move on. Live each day to the fullest, always.

on 11/22/2005 Purchase small Hershey's Kisses, a big Hershey's Kiss, and a beautiful card that's blank on the inside. Next, place the Hershey's Kisses on the floor in a trail to the bedroom and have the big Hershey's Kiss with the card. Finally, write - "I kiss the ground you walk on," on the inside of the card. This should be done before she walks through the door.

on 11/22/2005 Be unselfish in your love. There is more joy in loving than in receiving. Do something without expecting a reward. When you do get it, it will be like an added bonus. Love may be expressed in different ways, so don't be too hasty in your judgments.

on 11/22/2005 Don't let things get too boring. Keep your spouse excited and on their toes. Always do special things that show how much you really care for them. It makes them feel good to be able to brag about how great you are.

on 11/22/2005 If you are really mad at your spouse, do not raise your voice. Close your fist and start back-counting from 20 to 1. You can then resume talks on a fresh note. Remember, arguments fetch no solution. Discuss one problem at a time. Cry or laugh if you can. It will make the situation lighter for both of you.

on 11/22/2005 To resolve conflict between both partners, the best thing to do is for them not to go to bed with their conflicts unresolved.

on 11/22/2005 When your mate works all day walking around on his/her feet, their feet are sore and tender. While you sit there and watch TV, get some lotion and massage their feet. This is always appreciated no matter what.

on 11/22/2005 It may sound contrived, but when you don't schedule time for sex, it often doesn't happen. Besides, once you have a date set, you have something to look forward to. Many husbands will also find their wives more receptive when they can anticipate sex. It make them more relaxed and when they're more relaxed, both of you will enjoy it more.

on 11/22/2005 The grass is not always greenier with someone else. You leave a person because of problems and find someone else and you have new problems. So, try to work your problems out before getting involved with a new person is a big plus.

on 11/22/2005 Don't be afraid to say that I misunderstood what was said or even say I was wrong. Take the time to listen to the full statementor comments that your mate is saying without interruptions. Because if you do this, the above statement may not be necessary.

on 11/22/2005 Don't treat your mate like a little kid. Wheather woman or man. People value their independence and want you to respect it. Just because you scream louder doesn't make you a grown up.