Comments on: How to Avoid Family Discord During the Holidays

on 11/22/2005 I became resentful & exhausted trying to create holiday meals. I wrote down all tasks involved to create a large meal (shopping, table setting, clean up, etc.) and family members sign up for kitchen duties. Sharing the load is now a fun tradition for all.

on 11/22/2005 Keep away from controversial subjects such as politics, religion, labor unions or anything anyone might have a strong opinion about. Ignoring this advice may have family members not speaking to each other for years. Honest!

on 11/22/2005 The holidays have been ruined every year by the bitterness of my in-laws who have not liked having their traditions altered. To new couples: Start your own traditions and start them the first year! To in-laws: Give the new person a break.

on 11/22/2005 I have found that the most effective way to balance so much family togetherness is by giving yourself time-outs and breaks. Travel with a walkman and your favorite tapes, and take a period away from family to catch your breath. You know you deserve it.

on 11/22/2005 Once I got married I told my folks that I was starting my own traditions, and having holidays at my house, with no guests. I said it in a nice way, and it has worked. Now it's just my wife, my kids and some friends: very nice, and no stress.