Comments on: How to Ask a Friend on a Date - For Him

on 9/11/2008 if you really like a girl, don't flirt with other girls. treat her differently ( but not like freaky or anything)( always say hi, make her laugh or atleast try, and be a friend) girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.usually she will get that she is special. if you are to shy to ask her out directlu just get on that subject ( even if you're nervous), if she likes you too you'll most-likely end up asking eachother out at the same time. girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.

on 12/13/2007 Hey dudes I have the same problem, except there's a catch: she used to like me about a year ago; but now I like her and I'm unsure about how she feels and I'm extremely shy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

on 1/30/2007 this should be re-titled and the word friend removed. Me asking a friend to a movie wouldn't appear as a date to any of my female friends. If you want to do start getting intimate, you need to go a step further than a "movie".

Me personally.. if Im going to try to make the move from Friend to Boyfriend, Im going to do one of two things:

1. Just come right out and say "Hey... Let's go on a date!" and take it from there....

OR

2. Be much more subtle about it and try to get physically closer to that person. For example, I'll ask her over to watch a movie at my place and if we are snuggling, well, thats a good sign. If she sits on the other couch... not a good sign.

Alcohol is also a great way to break the ice. I'm not saying get her to pass out and then jump all over her. I just mean that a drink or two can loosen her up, and also let you relax enough to maybe be a little more courageous.

This article ensures that you get nowhere fast unless you are confident enough to do the rest yourself....which, if thats the case, you don't need this article to tell you how to ask a "friend" out to a movie.

Dave

on 8/27/2006 If you are really friends with this person, it might not be obvious that you want to go to a movie as a date rather than as friends. Don't assume they know what your intentions are.

on 8/8/2006 I asked out a friend once, and got an emphatic 'no'. I was fine with this, but since it happened, we have simply drifted apart. I used to be her best friend, but nowadays, I have found it harder and harder to keep in touch with her, and she is not bothering either. Think twice.

on 8/8/2006 Asking your friend out is a win-win situation. Ask her, and if she says no, reply with I was hoping that by us becoming friends it would allow us to move onward. By doing this you can also add that things didn't turn out the way expected and that you still want to be friends.
Win number 1- You still have a friend.
Win number 2- You are together and things would sail smoothly.

on 6/30/2006 Some people say it is better to be friends first, but you'll only get hurt more when she rejects you. You should forget about a friendship, and if you really like her, just ask her out. If she says no, move on. But asking a friend out just makes the relationship weird. It all depends on the friend. Mine didn't work out, maybe yours will.

on 3/28/2006 I think the first question you have to ask yourself is, "are you happy with the situation you are in with your friend right now or not"? Of course you want to remain friends, but if you think you like her romantically why not ask. By not asking you are keeping some of yourself from your friend, and are not being true to yourself. I recently asked a friend out and was turned down, but I feel better now that I asked because now I know how she feels. Our friendship has a better chance to grow, and now I can move on way easier and not be plagued by the 'what if' scenarios.

on 3/26/2006 One night a guy kept buying me drinks all night even after I told him I wasn't interested in him. So, I asked a friend of mine to sit next to me.

My friend asked me why I chose him, and I told him that I needed a male friend to help me and that the friend had to be attractive, so I naturally thought of him. He broke out into a huge grin and was game.

Every time the other guy bought me a drink, I turned and kissed my friend. Ironically, the drinks never stopped coming; so the kisses didn't stop either!

Well, I found out that my friend was a pretty good kisser. (Why didn't I find out sooner?!) I thanked my friend for helping me, and then asked him to call me sometime.

Three weeks and no phone call later, just when I thought I was going to forget about those great kisses from my friend, he came over to my place with a group of mutual friends unexpectedly. My best friend was with them. She pulled me into the bathroom and said he talked about me the whole way there! She asked why he never called me and he said it was because he didn't know how I felt about him in return.

I got up the courage to ask him to help me move. You know a guy likes you when he is willing to help you move from a third story apartment! I can't wait to spend more one-on-one time with him.

Who knows what will happen...still waiting on him to actually ask me out!

Bottom line; have more courage! Make that move, call her, and show your interest before she decides you aren't interested!

on 1/13/2006 Don't ask her to go to the movies with you on the first date! Be more original. If you don't know her very well, try going out for lunch. Of course we (men) have to pay for it, chicks love that. When you are done with dinner, take her somewhere nice, like a park, to keep talking. If you did this step by step, you will thank me.

on 11/22/2005 I am here to tell you that I wouldn't even consider dating a guy who wasn't a friend first. That is (well, was) one of my rules. I would not go out with you, if we weren't friends first. I feel that if you wouldn't take the time to be friends there's only one thing on your mind. And if we don't get along as friends, then we don't get along. Also, because guys are normally the ones that are afraid of commitment, if you do feel for a friend then you should say something. She might feel the same, and if she doesn't and she's a real friend, it won't hurt your friendship.

on 11/22/2005 Once they know you like them, they will immediately reject you unless they feel that their feelings mirror yours, which is unlikely. Your only shot is to ask out someone you barely know and don't care either way about. Then they might go out with you once or twice and there's a slight chance you could grow on one another. If you do not compulsively tell every girl you like that you like her, then you will not have to make things weird and start the drifting divide of your friendship, thus dooming it. The best advice for this, and probably every relationship question for that matter, is to just give up.

on 11/22/2005 My dream was to marry someone who was a friend first, I wanted to have my wedding invitation say "Today I marry my Best Friend..." and 6 years ago it happened and we've never been happier, If they're a really good and close friend it shouldn't be too much of a stretch to extend it to dating.

on 11/22/2005 I believe in simple principles that you have to be her best friend first. If she can't be your friend, how can you expect her to be your girlfriend? I believe the first step to love is friendship.

on 11/22/2005 If she is really your friend, she will probably say yes. Make sure that she isn't saying yes just because she doesn't want to hurt you, though. If she seems a bit awkward, say something like "If this is not something you want to do, please tell me now. I would rather be turned down now than lose our friendship later." If she does like you, she'll love it. If she doesn't, hopefully she will say that she doesn't. You don't need to waste your time with a careless relationship.