Comments on How to Ask a Friend on a Date - For Her

If you are really friends with this person, it might not be obvious that you want to go to a movie as a date rather than as friends. Don't assume they know what your intentions are.

I asked out a friend once, and got an emphatic 'no'. I was fine with this, but since it happened, we have simply drifted apart. I used to be her best friend, but nowadays, I have found it harder and harder to keep in touch with her, and she is not bothering either. Think twice.

Asking your friend out is a win-win situation. Ask her, and if she says no, reply with I was hoping that by us becoming friends it would allow us to move onward. By doing this you can also add that things didn't turn out the way expected and that you still want to be friends. Win number 1- You still have a friend. Win number 2- You are together and things would sail smoothly.

I asked out a friend once, and got an emphatic 'no'. I was fine with this, but since it happened, we have simply drifted apart. I used to be her best friend, but nowadays, I have found it harder and harder to keep in touch with her, and she is not bothering either. Think twice.

Some people say it is better to be friends first, but you'll only get hurt more when she rejects you. You should forget about a friendship, and if you really like her, just ask her out. If she says no, move on. But asking a friend out just makes the relationship weird. It all depends on the friend. Mine didn't work out, maybe yours will.

Some people say it is better to be friends first, but you'll only get hurt more when she rejects you. You should forget about a friendship, and if you really like her, just ask her out. If she says no, move on. But asking a friend out just makes the relationship weird. It all depends on the friend. Mine didn't work out, maybe yours will.

I think the first question you have to ask yourself is, "are you happy with the situation you are in with your friend right now or not"? Of course you want to remain friends, but if you think you like her romantically why not ask. By not asking you are keeping some of yourself from your friend, and are not being true to yourself. I recently asked a friend out and was turned down, but I feel better now that I asked because now I know how she feels. Our friendship has a better chance to grow, and now I can move on way easier and not be plagued by the 'what if' scenarios.

I think the first question you have to ask yourself is, "are you happy with the situation you are in with your friend right now or not"? Of course you want to remain friends, but if you think you like her romantically why not ask. By not asking you are keeping some of yourself from your friend, and are not being true to yourself. I recently asked a friend out and was turned down, but I feel better now that I asked because now I know how she feels. Our friendship has a better chance to grow, and now I can move on way easier and not be plagued by the 'what if' scenarios.

One night a guy kept buying me drinks all night even after I told him I wasn't interested in him. So, I asked a friend of mine to sit next to me. My friend asked me why I chose him, and I told him that I needed a male friend to help me and that the friend had to be attractive, so I naturally thought of him. He broke out into a huge grin and was game. Every time the other guy bought me a drink, I turned and kissed my friend. Ironically, the drinks never stopped coming; so the kisses didn't stop either! Well, I found out that my friend was a pretty good kisser. (Why didn't I find out sooner?!) I thanked my friend for helping me, and then asked him to call me sometime. Three weeks and no phone call later, just when I thought I was going to forget about those great kisses from my friend, he came over to my place with a group of mutual friends unexpectedly. My best friend was with them. She pulled me into the bathroom and said he talked about me the whole way there! She asked why he never called me and he said it was because he didn't know how I felt about him in return. I got up the courage to ask him to help me move. You know a guy likes you when he is willing to help you move from a third story apartment! I can't wait to spend more one-on-one time with him. Who knows what will happen...still waiting on him to actually ask me out! Bottom line; have more courage! Make that move, call her, and show your interest before she decides you aren't interested!

One night a guy kept buying me drinks all night even after I told him I wasn't interested in him. So, I asked a friend of mine to sit next to me. My friend asked me why I chose him, and I told him that I needed a male friend to help me and that the friend had to be attractive, so I naturally thought of him. He broke out into a huge grin and was game. Every time the other guy bought me a drink, I turned and kissed my friend. Ironically, the drinks never stopped coming; so the kisses didn't stop either! Well, I found out that my friend was a pretty good kisser. (Why didn't I find out sooner?!) I thanked my friend for helping me, and then asked him to call me sometime. Three weeks and no phone call later, just when I thought I was going to forget about those great kisses from my friend, he came over to my place with a group of mutual friends unexpectedly. My best friend was with them. She pulled me into the bathroom and said he talked about me the whole way there! She asked why he never called me and he said it was because he didn't know how I felt about him in return. I got up the courage to ask him to help me move. You know a guy likes you when he is willing to help you move from a third story apartment! I can't wait to spend more one-on-one time with him. Who knows what will happen...still waiting on him to actually ask me out! Bottom line; have more courage! Make that move, call her, and show your interest before she decides you aren't interested!

Don't ask her to go to the movies with you on the first date! Be more original. If you don't know her very well, try going out for lunch. Of course we (men) have to pay for it, chicks love that. When you are done with dinner, take her somewhere nice, like a park, to keep talking. If you did this step by step, you will thank me.

Don't just ask this chick out without thinking first. First of all, is there a good chance she likes you? This is important to consider if this girl is a "really" close friend already. If you ask her out and she says no, it could tarnish your friendship.

Once they know you like them, they will immediately reject you unless they feel that their feelings mirror yours, which is unlikely. Your only shot is to ask out someone you barely know and don't care either way about. Then they might go out with you once or twice and there's a slight chance you could grow on one another. If you do not compulsively tell every girl you like that you like her, then you will not have to make things weird and start the drifting divide of your friendship, thus dooming it. The best advice for this, and probably every relationship question for that matter, is to just give up.

There is no such thing as a close friendship that doesn't involve some attraction! If you are really that close, chances are she likes you. Signs to look out for: If she ever asks you (as a joke or whatever) why it is that you're just friends or why you would never work as a couple. What she is actually saying is "I want more!"(I know because I've done it.) The stuff about waiting before calling is rubbish. If you like her then call her, and do it that night or the next. It's those nights that we will be eagerly waiting for your call. Don't wait for her to cool off! If you really are close friends, it will possibly make it weird for a little time (in my case a week) but that will pass and even if she has said no, it will make your relationship so much stronger. If you love her, tell her. Even if she doesn't love you back, knowing you love her may make her feel differently about you, but don't be creepy or clingy. If you're in the friend zone, flirt! Compliment her, tell her how wonderful she is and flirt. You can make it seem like that's just a layer of your friendship but if she flirts back, you know you're onto something. If she goes "weird" on you, call her and tell her that you do love her but more than anything you want her as a friend and that you are so scared of losing her as that. If that doesn't work, she's not worth it! And finally, if you get her, keep her, and if you lose her, stay friends with her. If you don't get her at all, stay friends with her anyway.

If she is really your friend, she will probably say yes. Make sure that she isn't saying yes just because she doesn't want to hurt you, though. If she seems a bit awkward, say something like "If this is not something you want to do, please tell me now. I would rather be turned down now than lose our friendship later." If she does like you, she'll love it. If she doesn't, hopefully she will say that she doesn't. You don't need to waste your time with a careless relationship.

Don't ask a girl out over the phone or the Internet. Girls think that it is very unromantic and not very classy. If you ask her out over the Internet, you get used to talking to her over the Internet and not in person. Real life becomes awkward around her. A relationship revolves around good communication (in person), if you are too nervous to ask her out in person, then communicating with her in person is going to be nerve wrecking.

I believe in simple principles that you have to be her best friend first. If she can't be your friend, how can you expect her to be your girlfriend? I believe the first step to love is friendship.

Use computer technology to your advantage. Ask her out via e-mail. You will save any direct embarrassments of rejection.