Comments on: How to Impress a Man

on 11/2/2007 You should not be a talkative man or woman because silence is golden.Ur aim is to gain a job.

on 7/5/2007 Honesty! I have to admit, people in general tend to have this flirtatious 'date' persona that they go into when they meet someone that they like. As a guy I can't say that I'm a fan of it. There's nothing more cringing than a lady who forces her laughter. I think having your own ideas and a driving force will help you in the long run. Women that have a passion for something is a big turn on. Honesty is the best policy

on 1/11/2007 Why are you trying to impress a guy? If you are looking for a long term relationship then just be your self and let those who like who you are come after you. If you get a guy by being someone else then you are going to get very worn out keeping up that persona esp. if the realtionship is for the long term.

on 12/28/2006 Living your life - It's easy to be obsessive about your guy when first dating. I always try to take a step back and put myself first especially in the beginning of a new romantic relationship. It's sexy to have your own life--it shows the guy that you are your own person. It also makes you independent of him--if the relationship doesn't work out--you still would have your life intact. That's important--putting yourself and treating yourself first--

on 12/28/2006 This is from my own personal point of view (I'm a guy) of what I look for in a woman to impress me:

I like a woman to be modest yet secure within herslef, not loud and boisterous; not full of herself, to where she thinks the guy has to cater to her every whim "just because he's the guy, and she's the girl". I cater to whims when I care, with *reason*, for the girl! Not "just because they're the girl". ;)

I like when a woman dresses conservatively on all occasions! It shows that she's not *trying* to make others drool over her; but is confident and secure enough in herself to dress 'non ****ty'. It shows that she respects herself, and thus gives *me* reason to respect *her*, in return. It shows she's willing to be with *one* person (hopefully me), not *just anyone on the street* at the same time. *Trying* to impress someone makes one only look pathetic. Don't try, just BE! If you're not yourself, then talk it out with a counselor first, before attempting to be in a relationship with another person.

Honesty is truly the best policy. You don't have to let us know your deepest, darkest secrets just yet! That's left for when you're deep into a relationship to where you'll know it's the right time he'll accept it and still stay with you. ;) But be truthful about many important things that you KNOW need to be said within the first few weeks / months (or even hours, depending on how deep the secret is) you get to know someone, if you expect the relationship to last. If you're not ever honest with someone about a trait of yours that you're hiding from them, then they're only *partially* atttracted to you, not *fully*! How does that make YOU feel? It's similar to a guy putting on a mask of Brad Pitt and attracting all the girls, but deep inside he feels like crap for not being who he really is inside, and knowing the girls aren't crowding around him... for HIM! Faults can be worked out with each other, (and this actually brings two people closer together) rather than meeting "the perfect person" that [supposedly] has nothing wrong with them. When you let someone know of a fault, let them also know you're willing to work on fixing it; as they should do themselves, in return, as well.

I like a woman that can kid around when the time is right, and truly be themselves!

About getting your first date a gift? If it has to be on the first date, I'd do it after I talked with them, and let them know I liked what I heard and saw, and thus gave me reason behind my gift; it's better than the usual and shallow "Well, I'm *supposed* to get him/her flowers because that's just the typical thing to do". Getting someone a gift because you saw who they are, is MUCH more impressive, than just doing it because you think you HAVE to, to somehow "earn points" in some game. This is not a game, it's a possible relationship. That's no joke. :)

on 9/24/2006 If you are in the same class as a guy ( school, high school, etc.) write little notes on a piece of paper and throw it to him, but don't send too many. The man will appreciate that you are trying to talk to him even if there is a chance of you getting into trouble.

on 8/8/2006 When talking about music, if there's a song you both like, make him aware of it! Then, whenever he hears that song, he'll think of you (works for girls too).

on 8/8/2006 I like women that are laid back and have an "I don't care" type of personality. It shows your man that you are independent and you don't have to have someone telling you that you look good, you should know that you look good!

on 7/29/2006 As a man I like to be openly engaged in conversation with a lady, a little flirting is great, smiling passionately and enjoying yourself helps. Women who are confident often fair much better than shy women. Try to ask questions that require a sentence long response and avoid questions that involve strong opinions/ different tastes. A good first question would be "What's your favorite pizza topping?" It's different and brings a smile to the face.

Remember, first impressions count and women are much quicker than men in deciding if they like the person or not. So avoid any cheesy chat up lines.

on 6/30/2006 Get to know his personality and what he likes. Find similarities and differences. It's good to have things in common, it's also good to have a little bit of clash which brings in playful arguing and flirting.

on 6/30/2006 Dress in clean clothes, smell nice and look clean. Don't talk trash about others. Show him you're interested in what he has to say. Remember, just be yourself! Guys don't like phonies.

on 3/29/2006 Fact- You will not attract every guy.
Truth- but you will attract the one that is for you, if you stay true to who you are. If there is one thing that I have learned, it is that you cannot change who you are to fit someone else. When you do this you might lose out on a really great attribute that you have. Just because the wrong guy does not like something about you does not mean that the right guy won't. And trust me, that is just what he is the right man if he accepts you for who you are, even the things that can exasperate him. He will learn to tolerate because he understands that this is apart of you. And if he is really real and he feels that something that you do bothers him he will tell you in a respectable manner, but will not judge or hold if over your head. He will both understand and cherish your differences. From experience I know what it is like to hide an attribute about yourself because someone else was to insecure to handle it. Don't let someone else's insecurities drive you. Be true to yourself. Always.

on 3/21/2006 Guys don't find anything interesting about a girl who is sitting with a bunch of guys. Guys like girls to be sitting with a bunch of hot girls!

on 7/5/2007 I am very interested in how people think, which includes what they think. When I saw a relational "How To" I was very interested. I don't know who wrote the how to but I think they forgot a few things:

Mean It:
All this talk of respect and compliments are nice. I would be very impressed by them, very interested in a woman who wanted to know what I do with my time. However, in my experience with women (almost entirely a negative experience). I have seen women say, oh, about 7 nice things for every mean thing. This doesn't help me at all, as I have seen women consistently act in a way that is inconsistent with what they are saying. Know what you are saying and say what you mean. If you mean something you will stick by it or take it back. Another way to say this is what you say means, sometimes more then, but always what you said. Do you mean the same thing as what you said?

Don't just stop talking to a guy:
If I have lost your respect I would greatly appreciate it if you would tell me why. If we are deep in a relationship not talking about it is not an option it is a weapon it hurts. Saying, "I need a break I'll talk to you next week," is fine. But don't expect me to worry about a problem until you have said what it is.

Distinguish your emotions from your self but know that they are yours:
"You hurt me." Is as final as you wrecked my car. My first reaction to this is something along the lines of: "What are you trying to say? I didn't hurt you I just told my friends that your mom was rude because I heard her talking trash about my favorite T-shirt when she thought I was in the other room." However the statement, "You hurt my feelings." Makes me think: "My goodness, how?" If you say things in an offensive way (especially disrespectful) or with aggression you will put a guy on the defensive, and he will not budge an inch, even when talking through it with a friend later he realizes he was wrong.

Closing comments:
This "How To" is of surprisingly high quality. I would be very impressed and interested in a girl who did these things. Similar to what the "How To" said, is the fact that guys relate with respect. So when you want to relate something tell him respectfully "You saying that about really hurt my feelings because _____." Wear something you are comfortable in. I remember a friend mentioning a girl he saw wearing a revealing shirt and then putting a hand over her cleavage for some reason and how ridiculous I thought that it was. I hope you do not see my comments as out of place. Because I am a man, I am only trying to help you make the world a better place.

on 3/20/2006 If you have to act like one of the boys to be liked, then perhaps he should go out with a guy. Most women are naturally born right brain dominant, which means that they already have great relationship skills. So, perhaps the men need to read more articles to learn to have a relationship with women, especially since they don't appreciate the women they are pursuing to educate them.