Comments on: How to Handle Romantic Rejection

on 10/21/2008 Cutting all ties and loving yourself might seem like the healthy thing to do...but as a female we can be emotion creatures and that will make the situation worst. I think we have to learn how to be friends after we are rejected in any form. No one can resist a genuine friendship by someone who cares for them. What you do have to let go of is the self wanting of an intimate/sexual relationship. Sometimes a friendship will get you closer that sex. No one will reject your friendship unless you did something to make them really hate you.

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on 9/11/2008 SYR1234: I appreciate what you say about getting over a hurt, because its easy for people to say it will past. When you're the one that feel the hurt its not easy at all because it like trying to make someone to care for you . I hurt someone and I ask for his forgiveness and I apologizes over and over again and I thought we were okay but I know now what I felt he didn't and really that is not his fault because he never said he wanted to date me. I'm hurt because I feel I will never find someone to care or love me. i know as time goes on I will see him for who he is and then I can thank God it happen this way, but for now I miss him.
frdz!

on 9/9/2008 Getting over someone rejecting you can be one of the most difficult challenges life can offer.
Although it is easier said than done, the best path is to simply cut all ties. Accept that the other person is no longer interested, and keep your distance.
I recognize that this can seem impossible at times, but - when the wounds eventually heal, you will be able to look back and realize you handled the situation with dignity.
Remember - you CANNOT make someone feel love for you. When they tell you it's over - accept it. Work at moving on. It will be the hardest work you'll ever do -but you can grow from the experience.
Keep in mind, always, that you are not the first person to go through this, and you certainly won't be the last.

on 7/25/2008 ive experienced this heaps. it hurts, but you get over it. you learn from it. it makes you stronger and prepares you better for next time.

i think to love yourself you have to be the best person you can be. love yourself: eat healthy, excerscise regularly and assess what you want in life. take step to achieve your dreams and then you'll have self love.
love others and others will love you, if you have self love.

on 5/5/2008 People keep suggesting "love yourself" etc . Can you explain? How does one do this? What are some examples of things I can do?

on 5/5/2008 Great website for further love tranlsations: Manslations.com - check it out! (Probably more for women - but Jeff provides some great insight!!)

on 5/5/2008 almostdead - I read that and smiled - because it's nice to know that there are other people just like me out there!! I read your comment and felt like it could have been me writing that. (Minus the suicidal part) - It's just so ridiculous... However, I'm not going to let this last breakup get me down! I'm starting to realize that it's all in the positive attitude - try to stay "up" and you will be "up." Let yourself get down, and you will spiral down. In the end, I always say to myself that everything happens for a reason. If it wasn't meant to be - maybe it's good that it's finally over - so we'll both have a chance to find what we're looking for. I always also keep in mind that it's human nature to never be happy with what you have. All those "happy" couples that you mentioned that you notice aren't always happy. Even if you're rich, and with a wonderful person - there's sti

on 1/10/2008 i just posted a comment and i cannot find it. how does one find one's own comment? maybe i am losing it due to the hurt i am going through. that bitch !!

on 1/10/2008 I got dumped and it hurts. I see many here that bear that same hurt and I feel a little better that I am in company of people who understand. It hurts really bad. She dumped me for no apparent reason. She just said she felt uncomfortable since she was my colleague but in an office overseas. We had a great time while it lasted for 6 months. Usually it is me who dumps or breaks off with the girl. Now I know how it feels to be on the receiving end. I know I would have broken off wiht this one as well but she did it before me and hence I have such a hard time getting over this. I know it's my ego but I feel really bad. Like "almostdead" said, sharing may make the hurt a little less. Please someone write to me. Be my friend.

on 12/9/2007 My ex boyfriend just left me after an 8 year relationship and I am crushed over it. I've read all of the comments posted on breakups and it still hurts really bad. Any more suggestions.......

on 11/11/2007 I want to thank all you guys, and the site owners who wrote those 11 steps above.
I needed to learn about them.
So thank you, whoever you are. It's very helpful to know about them.
Forgive me for not writing more at this moment.
I'm still sulking it all up.
And yeah, there is that mixture of anger and depression. God, that's an awful mix...

I'll write more on the days to come.
I'll be a more setlled down.
Still, thanx a lot, guys.
God bless you all.

on 10/9/2007 i can keep on writing about the girl i love. to lose in something like this, to lose somebody you wanted badly .. i always want her to be happy. i will not talk to her, i will not meet her. i will watch her back.. just the realization that its you are a nobody for the person you love sometimes make you give up. but don't i will not, not on her and never on myself. my girl i love you and will be there for you always..

on 10/8/2007 i fell in love for the first time a year back.. now i know it means nothing to the girl i love. it is shattering ,i know the tips above are so true , but can't get her out of my mind. can't move on. no i don't stalk her.. i will always love her, care for her. i will never give up on her.

on 9/27/2007 I am in a lot of pain right now from someone who lost interest, reading this has helped me, and I also decided to tell the person the way I felt even though I knew they already would not reciprocate. In expressing myself. I broke the chain of silence that has all to often plagued my life. Now I can begin to let it all go. I am hurt and this person picked someone else over me, it has hurt my pride and esteem a bit. I am going to the gym, eating right, and doing my best to look at the positive things in life. I have cried, but you know what life goes on. I have been through this many times over. This time I am really going to analyze things, and see where I can improve on my choices of people to like. I know God has a bigger plan for me and sometimes you have to leave things in his hands, believe me he can and will comfort you if you seek him. It is so hard to let go.