Comments on: How to Date Safely

on 5/11/2007 but why we need these actions?
to screw some one? if you dont want to date why you
play such games?

on 8/8/2006 Initially, don't put yourself in potentially risky situations, e.g. inviting a woman back to your place on the first date. Meet in a public places, and let friends know where you are.

on 11/22/2005 Nothing is wrong with having lunch on a first date - daylight is good! Be the first to arrive and anticipate him being early. Get the license plate number from his car if you are meeting for the first time, you may need to tell the police this later if he turns out to be stalker material! Watch your drink! Date rape drugs are out there.
If he's too eager to buy you another drink, he may lack personality and want to inhibit your best judgment.
Tell him you have a roommate and a big dog, even if you don't! Take your cell phone and have a friend call to check on you. This may be a good out if he's scary. Make up a code word to use if something is wrong and you need help. Let them know where you will be ahead of time. Take your pepper spray and extra cash (if you will need a cab). Make sure he doesn't follow you straight home. If he touches you too soon, that may be a bad or desperate sign. If something goes wrong, go up to someone and tell them you're worried and ask if they can walk you to your car. You can ask a bouncer at a club, a group of clean-cut country boys, or a chick in the bathroom. But, do not be afraid to leave!

Worst case scenario if he's attacking you: Bite down on his lower lip and run screaming "Fire!" Or try puking on him, then run!

on 11/22/2005 You are under no obligations, regardless of who pays for the date.

on 11/22/2005 For the getting acquainted conversation: does he ask too many personal questions? want to know exactly where you live, when you told him just the area or neighborhood? does he suggest meeting at a place with an overtly sexual atmosphere like a strip club? This happened to me and a guy friend advised me to stay away from this date.

on 11/22/2005 I know you think you're too cool for that, but why not try public transportation? Since neither of you actually owns the vehicle, the date will not feel like he/she is under the other person's control.

on 11/22/2005 Don't assume that because you are a man, you don't need to think about your safety. The person who wrote the advice has assumed this - don't do it. Terrible things can and do happen to men, too.

on 11/22/2005 When meeting someone for the first time, find out right away if they are recently divorced or broken up with someone. Nine out of 10 are on a rebound. Move on.

on 11/22/2005 If meeting someone alone, be
sure to give a trusted friend the details of your date (when & where you are going, & when you expect to be home) and check in with them once you are. Give them your date's info, so he can be found in
case you aren't.

on 11/22/2005 Don't give out your phone number. And remember to block your phone number when calling him - he may have caller ID (or use *69). You can learn how to do this by checking your phone book or asking the phone company.

on 11/22/2005 Do they keep looking around? Get nervous if cops are around? If they do, something is wrong, and more than likely they are planning to do something that isn't exactly heavenly. Be careful where you go, and if you're meeting for the first time, group it.