Comments on: How to Survive the Bar Scene

on 9/14/2008 My advice is simpler- don't go!

on 9/14/2008 I met my husband of 25 years in a bar! So please don't rule out that it's not possible to meet your special someone in a bar...you just never know, If you go in with the attitude of being fake, then no you won't meet anyone special, because you are just playing a game. Most men and women don't like games.

on 9/13/2008 I find problems with step # 3 - Be someone you are not. If you are seriously trying to find someone (which I do not recommend to do in bars/clubs)act yourself. It saves time and trouble for other folks who then complain that you are not the same person they originally met. I have never met anyone with whom I have had a successful relationship with at a bar/club, hence the recommendation from above.

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on 8/25/2007 How do I stand a chance when I am in a bar with my mate, (who isn't really much to look at) will that be a put off for girls when I approach them??

on 3/16/2006 Bars are overpriced places filled with undesirables. Why not invite some friends over and have a drink together. 6 pack Corona: supermarket: $6
bar: $30.
You do the math!
I also have never met any remotely desirable people at a bar.

on 11/22/2005 Don't pick fights with bouncers or door-staff! There is a trick to getting in a bar. It's called - wait your turn! Talking back to bouncers doesn't get you in any faster! Remember, these people are doing their jobs, often working very long hours, finishing late, and dealing with drunk people. They can be really useful if you are nice to them! They may let you in first your next visit, hail you a taxi, make sure you are safe, or chuck out that guy with the wandering hands!
Don't give them a hard time.

on 11/22/2005 Never go to the bar with someone who is a troublemaker or someone who will cause you problems. They will only ruin your night.

on 11/22/2005 You have to be the best! You have to do your hair and makeup as if you are going to the Oscars, and pick an outfit that brings out your best physical features and shows a lot of skin! Ladies, I go to work looking not so good, I go to school looking not so good, but I put ALL my effort into going out and I am VIP!

on 11/22/2005 Before you leave listen to music that will get you pumped. While getting ready say I look hot, don't let yourself think otherwise, have that attitude all night. Once in there make eye contact, smile. Play hard to get but don't be rude about it, tease the person, and don't refuse a drink just follow the person to the bar and watch what is happening. Then you decide if numbers are exchanged, remember the bar scene is not looking for mr/mrs right but rather mr/mrs right-now.

on 11/22/2005 I have a neighborhood bar I hang out in where I know people and they know me and I feel safe there. I can go in there by myself, though I usually go to meet friends. I would very rarely go into a strange bar by myself. My main rules - never leave with anyone you meet in the bar the night you meet them. Give them your number, and/or get theirs. If they are really interested in getting to know you, they will call. If they don't, view it as lack of interest in starting a relationship, or that the beer was talking that night, not them. Never get drunk, especially if you are driving. If someone keeps trying to buy you unwanted drinks, tell the waiter or bartender to make it diet cokes rather than alcohol, or just not to give you anymore. Drink something non-alcoholic the last thirty minutes or more before you leave. Protect your drunk girlfriends - stop them from driving or doing something stupid.

on 11/22/2005 Doing the bar and club scene means you are out to have fun, so do it! Dance, laugh, and be merry. People don't want to approach someone who is stand-offish and reserved because of fear of rejection. Just being happy makes you more approachable.

on 11/22/2005 You may hit it off, exchange numbers, go home and dream about your wedding day only to find yourself staring at a phone that ain't ringing. Don't expect a love connection. It could happen, but let it be a pleasant surprise rather then an expectation.

on 11/22/2005 I feel that when you are around people you don't know there is less of a reason to put on a mask. Try being who you're happiest being. I hang out in a bar often and I have learned who I am and who I am happy being....

on 11/22/2005 I have found that the more you smile, laugh and show your teeth, the more attention you will derive from the opposite sex. It shows that you are a fun person and you look more attractive when you smile.