Comments on: How to Be a Bridesmaid

on 1/3/2007 It's tough to say no. I have had a friend cut me out of her life because I said I couldn't afford the financial commitment. How can you say no, but still stay on your friend's good graces - tactfully?

on 6/30/2006 Remember, be the bridesmaid or maid of honor you yourself would want to have in your own bridal party. That's the best way to think about it. If you would want a "Yes" man as your bridesmaid (and I think you would), then be a "Yes" man and do what the bride desires.

on 11/22/2005 It's the brides day - you are there as her support crew. Do whatever you can to make it as easy as possible for her. Tell her you like the dress (whatever it may be), be friendly to her in-laws and her parents, go along with plans for the day (or any other events). Be flexible and open-minded. Remember that it's her special day!

on 11/22/2005 Not enough can be said about declining an invitation to be a bridesmaid if you think you cannot fulfill your commitment. This saves the bride and other bridesmaids hurt feelings and frustration. If you think you might not be able to afford it, and/or won't be able to attend the pre-wedding festivities, politely say no.

on 11/22/2005 Being a bridesmaid can be a big commitment in time and money. It may be very difficult to tell your friend that you won't be in her wedding. Try to be up front from the beginning and say that you appreciate the honor, but decline. You'll both be happier.

on 11/22/2005 Whether you're planning a bachelorette night or a whole weekend away, pick a date early. The bride and her friends probably have a packed calendar of engagement parties, weddings and other bachelorettes, so nailing down a convenient date could be tough.