eHow launches Android app: Get the best of eHow on the go.
Copyright © 1999-2009 eHow, Inc. Use of this web site constitutes acceptance of the eHow Terms of Use † and Privacy Policy †. en-US Portions of this page are modifications based on work created and shared by Google and used according to terms described in the Creative Commons 3.0 Attribution License. † requires javascript
Post this comment to my Facebook Profile
breakinto said
on 4/13/2009 Focus on solutions rather than the problem.
leroo82 said
on 1/16/2009 what's with the 'she' and 'her'? is it naturally assumed that conflict in the workplace must involve caddy, talkative, trouble-making WOMEN? generalizations aside, i sought out this site to look for a solution to the conflict i'm having with a MALE co-worker. i'll keep looking.
DeysideAB said
on 5/29/2007 Thanks for the article
Payne said
on 5/18/2007 Remember you want all conflicts to be FUNCTIONAL no matter the situation. When the conflict is considered functional everyone will benefit
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 My daughter had the perfect line when I was stressing over a conflict with someone. There was really no way out of the conflict but I was allowing it to dominate my thoughts and my mood. She told me I was allowing the person to "live rent free in my mind". Since I couldn't do anything about the person's attitude, I decided to terminate their rent-free status.
Anonymous said
on 2/7/2008 Realize when you've done as much as you can to get through to someone, and then start working on finding other people to support you. There's only so much you can do in your position, but if you can convince other people in different positions that you're right, they can help you get things changed. For example, it's easy for your manager to blow you off. It's harder for them to blow a noisy customer off.
Anonymous said
on 12/15/2005 Don't admonish or try to resolve conflict in front of other employees. Also, making friends with the antagonist is very likely to backfire, especially if you are in a higher position. This drops you to their level and in the end makes discipline that much harder next time. Work is for working, not socializing. Keep it professional.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 It's true that you want to have a good rapport with co-workers, and a great one with supervisors. However, if you stand firm behind your actions, decisions, and opinions, then you will gain respect with those you work with. I try to remember that it's human nature to get a feel for what the new person's like. First impressions do count--establish respect with supervisors during the interview process (being early, well-spoken, negotiating pay well) and then establish respect with others during the first two weeks.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 Rude co-workers come and go. Usually they cannot last in that particular job. Hopefully they move on and bug someone else at a different workplace. If a co-worker belittles you in the office and should not, then report it to a supervisor and let the rest leave your mind like water off of a ducks back. They are not WORTH your valuable time.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 It sounds silly, but viewing your coworkers as customers can help you to view them sympathetically and respectfully. Instead of trying to correct them or take what they say personally, you can focus on helping them. Eventually most people respond well.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 Rasputin here: Angel1 writes that it is important to keep a journal because "it enables you to heal, grow and move on." What a load of nonsense. One must keep a journal to defeat your enemies in a lawsuit. Keep a journal for evidence.
Anonymous said
on 10/21/2007 If you have to work with someone with whom you have a personality conflict, only interact on a business level and when absolutely necessary. Once you learn to work together, you might discover that he or she isn't as bad as you thought and vice-versa.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 Try to make friends with the person in question. If you do, the person in question will be more willing to respect your needs/complaints. Also, when you are friends with the individual, the "little things" may not annoy you as much.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 A journal relieves stress and helps you get things off your chest. It enables you to heal, grow and move on. It also helps you get organized, and allows you to put stressors in your life into perspective.
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 Understand the different walks of life and different environments people come from. Realize that not everyone has the same morals and values. Everyone has different stressors. It isn't always you. Allow things to roll off!