Comments on: How to Comfort a Grieving Person

on 8/13/2009 Here's a link to an excellent discussion on how to talk with grieving parents who have lost a child of any age. http://www.achieveradio.com/dennis-jackson Go to archives of show that aired on 8/8/09. "Messages From Beyond". The guest was a woman who lost 2 children, one a newborn and the other age 30. She talks about her experience with Compassionate Friends, an organizational support group for grieving parents and family members.

on 8/12/2009 Great advice

on 8/8/2009 being a pastor i face this a lot. good work!

on 6/23/2009 THANK YOU FOR YOUR WONDERFUL COMMENTS.

on 6/18/2009 hello

on 6/17/2009 This is one of the best articles yet, I agree with every step! Step #1 is by far the most important. Support groups and individual therapy also help a grieving person tremendously!

on 5/17/2009 Wonderful advice...Very well written, thank you.

on 5/17/2009 Just be there for them. Each person handles a loss differently. Spend time with them, share with them God's love, just listen. Don't try and tell them "there in a better place" etc, as you don't really know that. God is with them and feels there loss, and we somtimes for now do not understand God's plans. Blessings,Christianwalk

on 4/27/2009 Great information and well written! 5* and rec

on 4/26/2009 kthorse and catiemouse , you are so right. What blows my mind is when people say "Grief lasts for about 3 years!' My pain is everpresent! It just wears a mask and hides within, But its always there. In place of the missing.

on 4/19/2009 One thing that made me feel better when I was sad because I lost my sister. My best friend came up to me and said remember when she used to kick us out of her room all the time? She was brutal. It made me laugh and think about the small things. It opened me up to accepting it.

on 4/19/2009 I have lost two sons, one at 8 months and my eldest at 39.I feel the only way we can help others grieve is to have experienced the situation in question. only experience can be of any help, if the person to whom you are comforting knows that you have suffered the same loss, it is so much easier for the comforted to say nothing and just let go. I found talking to people that had not gone through anything like this, did not know how to react and the counselors where even worse, I mean, who at that time wants to read a book on grieving?.So I know I have not lost my children, they will always be my babies and will always be part of me and close to me and I think that this is what someone who is grieving wants to hear.

on 1/15/2009 I think it helps to know that there are others that are missing their loved ones as well. That you are not the only one feeling this enormous and undefined loss. We need to not carry this on our shoulders alone. We need to talk about our loss and the person we are missing. Why are we embarrassed to show our sadness and tears? I found a connection here: www.lunaslight.com. They seemed to really understand what I needed to do- not greive alone.

on 12/5/2008 Great advise. I would only say that for me and child loss. If someone asked if their was anything they could do I would say no because I couldnt think . I didnt care if I ate, slept, died or anything. I think people should just come and help with food, take the kids out and help with out asking if they need it. In the beginning of child loss you dont know if you need anything. you know nothing but pain

on 5/14/2008 It's often so awkward to know what to do when someone close to you loses someone. I got a lot of tips from http://www.bridgebeyond.com/ask_julia .