Comments on How to Comfort a Grieving Person

Wonderful advice :) really helped me out a lot when I didn't know what to do.

Great advice

being a pastor i face this a lot. good work!

THANK YOU FOR YOUR WONDERFUL COMMENTS.

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Wonderful advice...Very well written, thank you.

Just be there for them. Each person handles a loss differently. Spend time with them, share with them God's love, just listen. Don't try and tell them "there in a better place" etc, as you don't really know that. God is with them and feels there loss, and we somtimes for now do not understand God's plans. Blessings,Christianwalk

Great information and well written! 5* and rec

kthorse and catiemouse , you are so right. What blows my mind is when people say "Grief lasts for about 3 years!' My pain is everpresent! It just wears a mask and hides within, But its always there. In place of the missing.

One thing that made me feel better when I was sad because I lost my sister. My best friend came up to me and said remember when she used to kick us out of her room all the time? She was brutal. It made me laugh and think about the small things. It opened me up to accepting it.

One thing that made me feel better when I was sad because I lost my sister. My best friend came up to me and said remember when she used to kick us out of her room all the time? She was brutal. It made me laugh and think about the small things. It opened me up to accepting it.

I have lost two sons, one at 8 months and my eldest at 39.I feel the only way we can help others grieve is to have experienced the situation in question. only experience can be of any help, if the person to whom you are comforting knows that you have suffered the same loss, it is so much easier for the comforted to say nothing and just let go. I found talking to people that had not gone through anything like this, did not know how to react and the counselors where even worse, I mean, who at that time wants to read a book on grieving?.So I know I have not lost my children, they will always be my babies and will always be part of me and close to me and I think that this is what someone who is grieving wants to hear.

I have lost two sons, one at 8 months and my eldest at 39.I feel the only way we can help others grieve is to have experienced the situation in question. only experience can be of any help, if the person to whom you are comforting knows that you have suffered the same loss, it is so much easier for the comforted to say nothing and just let go. I found talking to people that had not gone through anything like this, did not know how to react and the counselors where even worse, I mean, who at that time wants to read a book on grieving?.So I know I have not lost my children, they will always be my babies and will always be part of me and close to me and I think that this is what someone who is grieving wants to hear.

Great advise. I would only say that for me and child loss. If someone asked if their was anything they could do I would say no because I couldnt think . I didnt care if I ate, slept, died or anything. I think people should just come and help with food, take the kids out and help with out asking if they need it. In the beginning of child loss you dont know if you need anything. you know nothing but pain

Great advise. I would only say that for me and child loss. If someone asked if their was anything they could do I would say no because I couldnt think . I didnt care if I ate, slept, died or anything. I think people should just come and help with food, take the kids out and help with out asking if they need it. In the beginning of child loss you dont know if you need anything. you know nothing but pain

EHow Friend is right. Telling a person who's lost a beloved pet "It's only a cat" is asking for two black eyes and a broken nose.

EHow Friend is right. Telling a person who's lost a beloved pet "It's only a cat" is asking for two black eyes and a broken nose.

When my mother died, what I loved hearing the most were things like "She loved you so much" or "She was proud of you". I knew that but during grief, it really helps to hear it again.

When my mother died, what I loved hearing the most were things like "She loved you so much" or "She was proud of you". I knew that but during grief, it really helps to hear it again.

This is all good advice. My best friend's husband passed away at age of 41. Some of our other friends were going to go into her house and clear out his stuff so she wouldn't be reminded --- hello??? Thank goodness they told me 1st and I stopped them. The grieving person should be the one to call the shots. I know they meant well but she would have been totally devastated.

This is all good advice. My best friend's husband passed away at age of 41. Some of our other friends were going to go into her house and clear out his stuff so she wouldn't be reminded --- hello??? Thank goodness they told me 1st and I stopped them. The grieving person should be the one to call the shots. I know they meant well but she would have been totally devastated.

I second the idea of providing physical support. Holding someone's hand and meaning it, holding them, period. Or, if you can't, if you are overwhelmed, at least try to stay verbally connected, let them know you are there (physically), say things like, I'm with you, or I'm going to stay with you until we get you to where you feel better, etc. Is there someone you can call, etc.

I second the idea of providing physical support. Holding someone's hand and meaning it, holding them, period. Or, if you can't, if you are overwhelmed, at least try to stay verbally connected, let them know you are there (physically), say things like, I'm with you, or I'm going to stay with you until we get you to where you feel better, etc. Is there someone you can call, etc.

After a horrible bereavement in my family, people were very kind to me. Every bit of encouragement you can give will help a bereaved person. Just saying 'It must be terrible for you. I am so sorry.' is good enough.

After a horrible bereavement in my family, people were very kind to me. Every bit of encouragement you can give will help a bereaved person. Just saying 'It must be terrible for you. I am so sorry.' is good enough.