Comments on: How to Find the Best Places to Meet People

on 4/11/2007 Sign up with a direct sales company. You earn money and meet new people.

on 8/8/2006 Find a yoga class in your area that is popular among women in your age range. Of the yoga classes that I have been to, typically 95% of the participants are females (and obviously ones who care about their health and fitness, which I find especially attractive). When you are one of a few guys in an otherwise women-filled room, your chances of meeting a potential date are much higher than just about anywhere else. Plus, the women will naturally pay more attention to you if you are in the small gender minority of the group,that's another feather in your cap.

on 8/8/2006 Get yourself some cheap, standard, business cards printed which don't cost a fortune.

I bought 500 cards for $25 and included my Name, Tel Number, Email and MSN. I even got a small metal pocket case for them.

This is such a good tip for a number of reasons:

1. You don't have to ask for there number or if they want yours, and you don't have to write anything down, ask to borrow a pen, use your mobiles. It saves all the social discomfort and you can pull out a card in a few seconds and say have my number.

2. Gives them just what information you want and maybe multiple ways to contact you. Some people feel more comfy by text, phone, email or online chat etc. By having varied ways to contact you on the card helps them decide a way to say hello.

3. Cards end up in wallets and purses, this in some respects is true because if you give someone a torn scrappy bit of paper the option to throw or miss place it becomes higher. Most of the time you will find people keep the card even if it takes them 6 months to use it.

4. All around, you could meet someone at a bus stop, social event, study group or wherever, and even after brief conversation where you identify things in common and get a feel for there mood. Try to ask if they're seeing someone in a friendly every day kind of way, this will shows a slight interest and also gives them a chance to pick up on a possible attraction.

Then when the conversations coming to an end either pick a shared hobby and say, do you want to go and watch a film? See an art show? I like going to the gym, maybe we could go together sometime? Them you simply say, would you like my number? And hold out your card.

Very few people will say no to a card; meaning even if the person your giving it to isn't that sure, they still get your contact information.

There has been several occasion in the last few years alone where armed with nothing but a card and honesty I have met some lovely girls.

Equipped with your cards, you can take them anywhere, and in all of a few minutes; chat, give a card, and you have showed interest and given away your number to someone you like. Each card takes a second to give away and cost less that boiling a kettle.

Last thing - If you think cards are a silly idea and people might giggle, say you use them for work, or say you got fed up of people asking for your number or email and not having it to hand them. And it's cheap!

on 8/8/2006 Just go to a gift shop, and while seeing the gifts (say a little bear)and you see a sexy girl. Ask her opinion on that gift and say that you are buying it for your sister. She will find it cute, and if she is interested, she may talk to you and be friends.

on 2/21/2006 The best way I met people with similar interest (family) was by joining a playgroup.

on 11/22/2005 No single female jumps into a car with a total stranger, that would just scare her off. You get out of the car and offer to buy the girl a drink. Put on an accent or pretend you're not familiar with the area.

on 11/22/2005 If you really want to get a girl, drive down a crowded street and drive super slow. When a girl looks at you, ask her where the best place to get a drink is located. She will answer, then you ask if she could show you.

on 11/22/2005 The best (and least intimidating) way to meet a new woman is at the mall. This happened to me. A guy saw me in a store we were shopping in, and he went and got a sales flyer from the pile at the entrance door. He approached me, saying "Hello, would you like one of these flyers? I see you don't have one," and he smiled gently and waited for my reply. It was enough that I could have politely said "No," or (as I chose to), said "Yes." We chatted about the sales and looked at the sale items, and we talked about our respective homes. Eventually, he asked to take me for a cup of coffee. It worked, and I didn't feel like he was hitting on me. If I wanted to, it would have been easy to say "No" (if I wasn't interested) without hurting his feelings. Try it, guys. Really, its it's a very nice way to meet a woman you are attracted to.

on 11/22/2005 Become a "regular" at some place, like a cozy but busy coffeehouse or bookstore, or a friendly bar or concert hall. Be nice to the staff, who will notice you as you keep showing up to hang out. In most cases, you will find that there are other "regulars," too, who you can start saying "hi" to as they recognize you. (No one will think it is strange that you finally say "hi," since you go there all the time.)

on 11/22/2005 I think that the mall is a great place to meet people. :)

on 11/22/2005 If you want to meet people, go to your local gym. Not only will you get a workout, but there are a lot of interesting people there.

on 11/22/2005 If you are in college...try the classes route. Exchange numbers/IM names with the people around you. It's a great way to meet people in general!

on 11/22/2005 It is very hard to build a friendship with someone based only on a fleeting glance in a supermarket line, or at the gym where everyone is there to work on their solitary fitness goals. A structured social group with regular meetings and common goals is best. Try: volunteer associations; historical reenactment associations (especially SCA - very friendly people!); etc. etc. Post more ideas! These are only two that I know of. If you know of any others - please post! I am looking for more groups to belong to myself. Belonging and regular social interactions are the keys to good friendships and no more loneliness.

on 11/22/2005 I know of no other environmental group that meets in every American city. If you like to be outdoors, you'll definitely meet others who do. If you like to be involved politically, they do that, too.

on 11/22/2005 When you're waiting for a bus or train, offer someone who seems lost to help with directions. You'll end up talking without realizing it. If you and the other person are taking the same route, great. Keep talking and get the phone number.