Comments on: How to Know It's the Right Time to Have Sex

on 5/30/2009 Even as Christian man, I understand your point of view Dontcare. I can see how many people view Christianity as a very constraining belief and that you should be able to make decisions on your own. However, I will say that is exactly the beauty of believing in God. God gives us the choice to believe in him or not and live the way we want. If you think about it, its the most liberating feeling that life can offer. I know that waiting until marriage to have sex is really frowned upon these days and that some people even consider it outdated, but honestly sex was created so that a man and his wife could experience the highest sense of love there is. I know its a little hard to understand at times, but I promise its a lot for fulfilling than bouncing from girl to girl (trust me I've lived that life and I wasn't half as happy as I am now)

on 3/4/2009 Also, I feel bad for people that never experience the wonders of life outside a damn book because they are too stressed thinking about what some supernatural being in the sky thinks about them. Man how can you live your life that way? Be freeee! Just do what feels right for you is all. Frankly I've only ever been with one guy, because its what feels right to me. But I certainly don't look down on people who like one night stands for some fun and pleasure and not to mention stressrelief. I'm not talking about sex addiction mind you. Meh whatever to each their own.

on 3/4/2009 Please. There's no such thing as god and if there was I dont need it/she/he telling me what makes me happy orc ontrolling my life, I know what makes me happy, and I will do as I please as long as it doesn't harm others. Humans evloved as a social, sexual creature, people need to learn that, and not think that ooo sex is bad because some mythical being said so, and therein be closed minded about it. I was traumatized by that type of crap and it to me awhile to learn what sex is really about, the bonding and such, and pleasure as well. (Research Bonobos, a very close relative of ours, that use sex in a simular fashion, for social reasons)BTW the bible endorsed cocubines, polygamy and slaves.

on 12/23/2008 I feel very bad for beachbabe. She's like a fish living in a mudhole never having experienced anything else saying that it can't understand all this talk about swimming in the wide open seas and being able to enjoy what it was meant for. God did not make us females (and males for that matter) to find sexual fulfillment in being prostitutes or fornicators- especially not free ones. Remember, God made us and knows what makes us happy. He says marriage is the right time for sex to give us true fulfillment whether we completely understand it at 15 or ever. And as far as how do we know who is the right one, God lists the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:19-24. Don't even date someone who doesn't exhibit these characteristics, let alone give your purity away to them. Beachbabe, don't you think your future husband won't prefer leftovers?

on 10/14/2008 I think it's okay to think about a lot of different kinds of non-sexual connections between people as relationships--and that there is a gift in that for those of us who go on to have sex with someone special, or in another lifestyle, with someone you share mututal respect with.

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on 6/22/2008 it's a good article...
i think you need to know if the person really care abut you before you have sex with them because you also need to respect yourself XXX

on 1/7/2007 i agree with BeachBabe182. because u dont always know who is right 4 u. "there are alot of other fish in the sea". you dont have to stay with one person just because u had sex with them

on 6/11/2007 I think it comes down to personal choice really. I only just had sex for the first time last night. I'm only 15 and 1/2, and it was with a guy that i'm not even in a relationship with, i barely even talk to him, we only meet up just to do sexual stuff and I dont even regret it, even though I have friends who I know would be a wreck if this happened to them. I think its stupid how people get on this and say wait til marriage. Its pretty dumb coz just coz you marry someone doesnt mean their you're partner for life. How can you really know who is the right person? I say just go with how you feel inside and not worry about what everyone else thinks.

on 9/22/2006 don't wait till your ready go with your throbing biological urge and just have sex, leave and never call the girl again. Always use protection and by that i mean a different name so she cant find you

on 8/30/2006 I waited till I was 21 to have sex. Let me tell you, being a guy and waiting till 21 is rare, I guess. But most people wait till they're married where I come from (due to religious reasons) I won't say I regretted having sex cause I made "love" to a person I really was in love with. How did I know when to have sex? Well, timing. And I just gave it about 3 months into our relationship while we were going out and just thought it was time. She was special to me and I wanted to give something special to her that only she would get. Should I have waited till marriage? Yeah, I could have, but to be honest - I am glad that I did it.

As some people have pointed out, sexual compatibility is important. I haven't had many sexual partners, just a few, and I can point out that every girl (I can still count them on my hands) have been a different experience. Some I wasn't compatible with (good thing I didn't marry them), and some were great.

To be honest, the first girl I had sex with was the girl I still can't forget about and I can honestly say, I loved her. So maybe I should have waited, cause I would have married her and I regret breaking up with her. I should have listened to my heart!

I think if you can wait till marriage that is great, and like other people say, your partner will admire you for that. No one should pressure you into sex. Junior and high school love..well, don't believe in it. You grow up and your tastes changes.

High school boys. Girls you are just a number to some and they just are wanting to brag to their buddies in the locker room. Wait till you get a little wiser and older. You'll be glad. I'm glad I waited till I did. It doesn't matter if you are a virgin at 18 or 40. Plus, less drama and you don't have to worry about getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant!

on 8/8/2006 Sex should always be saved for marriage. I'm only 14, and some of my friends talk about how sex shouldn't be put off until then, they think it's stupid to wait. I think they are so wrong. I honestly believe that sex is for marriage. Sex brings on so much responsibility that can be the downfall of a relationship that would have otherwise led to marriage. Pregnancy and STDs can only be prevented by abstinence. And just because the times have changed, doesn't mean that God's view of sex has changed. Sex is meant to blend two people into one. It binds you, your commitment, and your intimacy together for eternity. The feeling in your gut about your partner doesn't even amount the pain and regret you may feel later.

on 2/21/2006 Before having sex one should consider a number of factors;
1. What is your goal in having sex? Pleasure, intimacy or simply the experience?
2. Are you educated and know how to protect yourself and your partner? Are you mature enough to deal with the consequences if something goes wrong? This means knowing (if you are having heterosexual sex) if you could deal with the possibility of pregnancy, AIDS, STDs or any other number of possible problems - look at the worst possible outcomes: a condom breaking or someone walking in. Think it out and take precautions. If you can't deal with the thought of getting an abortion, giving the child away or raising a child don't have intercourse! Have oral sex or try some other form of sex play that can't result in pregnancy
3. Do you trust your partner and know their sexual history? (females especially since the first time usually hurts) When you lose your virginity you want it to be with someone you trust and who isn't simply using you. Ask yourself the question -would they still stay with me if we didn't have sex? If the answer is no, you don't want to sleep with this person- above all respect yourself!

on 11/22/2005 You'll know when you have a certain feeling in your gut. But make sure you talk to your partner before it happens. Talk about STD's and pregnancy and of course protection. Who's going to provide it? If you're partner isn't a virgin, you may want to tell them you are. That way they can be gentle with you to avoid hurting you.

Some say if you can't handle being naked in front of your partner, then you're not ready to have sex. And lastly, for many women losing your virginity can be emotional. Guys don't just turn to the other side or get up to get dressed. Comfort her. For the women it may be looked upon as a lifetime bond, because you have something no other guy will ever have that once belonged to her.

on 11/22/2005 All through my early to mid-twenties I had the same boyfriend. I thought that we should have sex. Why? Because that?s what you?re supposed to do right? Like many people that was as far as I had thought it through. He thought it was better to wait until marriage. So now I?m 29 and you know what? I?m glad he was so sensible. I had no idea who I was or what I wanted and needed. I now understand that I would rather wait until marriage. If you are in a committed relationship and you know you are both ready, you both love each other, and you want the same things- fantastic. But if you?re not sure, don?t be embarrassed and don?t let others impose their beliefs on you. It?s OK to wait. There?s nothing wrong with you in spite of what our culture would have you believe. If you're uncertain, ask yourself this: How can you share yourself with another person if you don?t yet know who you are?