Comments on: How to Tell if You're Spoiling Your Newborn

on 11/3/2008 When baby is a newborn, you can't spoil him. As he gets older, that's different. Do your own research before making assumptions like this just by experience. When baby is under six months, you can't spoil.

on 8/27/2008 A 10 month old child I have in my in home day care cries constantly if not held. He refuses to sit up on his own during play time and will not try to crawl or even hold his own bottle unless I put his hands on the bottle and make him hold it. Then he will hold it for a few minutes and cry until I hold it for him....Someone please help me...I do not know how to help this child and myself from going in sane

on 7/24/2008 My father spoiled my 7 month old allways holding him. Now I dont know how to reverse his actions.If I put him down now to do my houswork are cook he crys and crys. I am a first time mother please help

on 7/11/2008 I am sorry, but I disagree. Spoiling a baby IS POSSIBLE and I have SEEN IT WITH MY OWN EYES FIRST HAND! So I do not care what scientists have to say if I know myself that it is possible. Anyone who has children knows that spoiling babies is a very real event. Not picking your baby up constantly when they cry is not cruel. Babies love to be held and if you do hold them constantly they cry to be held constantly. It's just not realistic when you're a mother to do this, other things need to be done as well, especially if you have other children.

on 7/10/2008 You can't spoil a baby....... It's been proven. If the baby is under six months at least, they need to be held. According to Dr. Greene, babies cry for a reason. If they aren’t hungry or dirty, they may have that desire to be held! (Spoiling Baby, 1996) Going to a baby when they are crying only to touch them and not pick them up is cruel. Baby thinks you are going to pick him up and you don’t is like taunting him.

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on 7/8/2008 Great Acticle! My grandson cries a lot because his mother has spoiled him by picking him up or holding him all the time and when you put him down he cries. I will have her read your article and mabe it will help her understand why he is crying so much. thank-you

on 6/21/2008 Great topic! Your baby is adorable. :-)

on 6/20/2008 BTW Yoga, Your argument can also be applied to everything in a baby/child's life. "I think it's cruel to let a child cry because he wants a candy bar right before dinner". Even though it hurts you to hear them cry you can't let the child have the candy bar because you know that it's not good for them, it'll spoil their appetite and it's not healthy to eat candy bars all of the time. Do you understand?
You do EVERYTHING in parenting by looking at things in the long run and how it will effect your child. It is always easier to look at the here and now and not think of the consequences it will have on your child. That is the difference with good parenting.

on 6/20/2008 Yoga, I believe that if you aren't going to take care of your baby then you shouldn't have them. GOOD PARENTING involves becoming aware of how your baby thinks and feels, not in ignoring them or picking and choosing. GOOD PARENTS know their baby and what they need and when. GOOD PARENTS teach their baby that it is not ALWAYS time to be held because that isn't good for the baby or the family, period! That is how some mothers end up not being able to cook, clean the house or use the bathroom without their baby attached to their hips or crying when they put them down...because they didn't practice balance!

on 6/20/2008 Abby, I agree with you complete. You can never spoil a baby with too much love. As Pixie stated, balance in the key to a happy baby and a happy household. :)

on 6/19/2008 I think it's incredibly cruel to let a baby cry themselves to sleep just because you think they're "fine". Parenting isn't an activity that you get to pick and choose when you'll respond to your kids and when you won't. What's the point in having them if you aren't going to take care of them?

on 6/19/2008 You can't spoil a baby with too much love. And crying is how they communicate their needs!

on 6/12/2008 Great tips, thanks!

on 6/10/2008 balance is key

on 6/10/2008 Exactly what I was looking for! Thanks for responding to my questions!