Comments on: How to escape a controlling, paranoid, and abusive spouse

on 4/4/2008 Why is this???????????????????????

on 4/3/2008 Lots of good thoughts and tips. Given the reality that women are as likely to commit domestic violence as men, the only thing this article needs are tips for battered men given the reality that all but the fewest shelters in the entire COUNTRY allow men and there aren't too many battered men's shelters in this United States.

on 2/29/2008 ....let him know that you are protecting yourself and what is yours. Contact an attorney, and or do your homework at your local library when possible on Domestic Laws. I cannot stress to you enough, plan plan plan EVERYTHING ahead of time! I hope this helps!

on 2/29/2008 ....protect yourself and what is yours. Contact an attorney, and or do your homework at your local library when possible on Domestic Laws. I cannot stress to you enough, plan plan plan EVERYTHING ahead of time! I hope this helps!

on 2/29/2008 I can understand the situation of having to leave the place you grew up at as well just to get away. If he's beating you or members of the family, this can be helped by making one phonecall to the authorities, otherwise, continue to document and take pictures just the same until the final day of "judgement" so to speak when you announce not ask for the divorce. If he gets violent in any way, this would be an excellent time to call the authorities if you have not done that yet. Press charges!!! This will help you in court and it will also help in keeping him away from causing you more pain and problems until the court date if you're able to file some type of restraining order against him. In the meantime prepare to change locks on all doors, plan on getting a couple of big dogs for outside, and get a security system. Definitely follow all the same procedures being very careful not to

on 2/28/2008 How about getting him to leave if he is on YOUR property, and you have no intention of leaving 45 acres inherited from your late parents?

on 1/3/2008 Awesome article! Awesome!

on 12/15/2007 This is a great article full of very real and useful information. I too am familiar with the abusive marriage and think that guilt of leaving keeps many women in dangerous or otherwise miserable marriages. Staying in an unhealthy relationship to "stick it out" is just plain WRONG. Great work Blackbear-- you're helping a lot of women out there.

on 12/14/2007 Very good and informative article - I am NOT in this position - thankfully; however, I used to counsel women who were! Glad to know I gave them SOME good information - I would have loved to have had ALL of this! Thank you once again on a job well done!