Comments on How to Be Sensitive to Pronouns and Gender Issues When Talking to a Transgendered Person

Its Transgender not Transgendered. NO "ed" at the end.

It depends how you use the term - most people these days use it as a broad umbrella term whih includes crossdressers, some of whom do wish to be treated as the "opposite" sex some of the time (i.e. when they are presenting as such) but not all of the time. You seem to see "transgendered" as equivalent to "transsexual" which is not how most people use it. Cheetos, you seem a bit prejudiced against crossdressers (or bigendered people as some would define themselves as these days)

Uhm, Cheetos, I am working on a relationship with a MTF transgender who phase shifts in mid sentence from one sex to another, and is a long way from becoming permanently female full time. Just so you know...

In reference to Cheetos' comment - not all transgendered people choose to transition or undergo gender reassignment surgery. As a member of the transgender community, I'm biologically female, but I present as male, and have no intentions of transitioning. I do not ALWAYS present as male. I didn't find any problem with this how to. It's simply a case of address them as the presented gender unless stated otherwise.

In reference to Cheetos' comment - not all transgendered people choose to transition or undergo gender reassignment surgery. As a member of the transgender community, I'm biologically female, but I present as male, and have no intentions of transitioning. I do not ALWAYS present as male. I didn't find any problem with this how to. It's simply a case of address them as the presented gender unless stated otherwise.

"transgendered" is often used as an umbrella term to include all people who have a gender identity/presentation different from the norm, including crossdressers (although I know it is sometimes used in more restricted senses too). The list above only says "some" TG people sometimes present one way and sometimes another, which is true, and taken as a whole the advice seems generally helpful, though you would need strong evidence that the person wants to be treated as the opposite gender to their biological sex before doing so - ie if you took point 1 too broadly you might decide a butch or androgynous-looking woman wanted to be treated as a man: not necessarily the case - but if she's a drag king wearing a false beard etc, then she (he) may well do, ditto a male cross-dresser wearing false ****s etc.

Transgender is not just the term that describes transgender, transgenderist, or "non-operative transsexual" as it used to be called. Transgender includes many different categories of people who have gender issues, who have alternative gender identities, or who the world has gender issues with. Some other examples of transgender people can include crossdressers, two-spirit, Hijra caste members, intergender, intersex, androgyne, genderqueer, and male/female impersonators; this list is by no means complete. I am really irritated that people try to go around dividing our community, when we are on the verge of seeing sweeping advances in our rights. We need to stick together, instead of being driven apart. I've heard too many people trying to drive one category or another out of the transgender community, and I will speak up any time I hear this kind of talk threaten our unity.

Transgender is not just the term that describes transgender, transgenderist, or "non-operative transsexual" as it used to be called. Transgender includes many different categories of people who have gender issues, who have alternative gender identities, or who the world has gender issues with. Some other examples of transgender people can include crossdressers, two-spirit, Hijra caste members, intergender, intersex, androgyne, genderqueer, and male/female impersonators; this list is by no means complete. I am really irritated that people try to go around dividing our community, when we are on the verge of seeing sweeping advances in our rights. We need to stick together, instead of being driven apart. I've heard too many people trying to drive one category or another out of the transgender community, and I will speak up any time I hear this kind of talk threaten our unity.

Um...this "HowTo" is talking about crossdressers, not transgendered people. They do NOT live "part of the time as a man and part of the time as a woman". Who wrote this? A transgendered person changes their sex...physically, legally, permanently and then lives accordingly. You probably wouldn't even know one if you met one. This "HowTo" is an uneducated insult and should be modified or removed. It's doing much more harm than good.

I like this being a TG myself. More people need to follow this.

I like this being a TG myself. More people need to follow this.