Comments on: How to Know Who to Include in a Wedding Shower

on 7/18/2006 Here's a tip: The bridal shower is not about the mothers. It's about the bride. So if you don't get introduced, fed second, or receive any other special treatment, take into consideration the fact that the shower isn't supposed to revolve around you.

Also, don't expect to be invited to the shower if you live out of state. Let the bride know ahead of time that you're willing to make the trip so she doesn't feel awkward asking you to.

on 6/30/2006 I just learned that my future daughter-in-law had her bridal shower yesterday. Not only was I not invited, but the groom's sister (who is also one of the attendants) also wasn't invited. Although we don't live in the same state as the bride, my daughter and I would have enjoyed participating in this special occasion via long distance. So to whomever is in charge of the shower, make sure to invite the groom's mother and any sisters the groom has, especially if they are one of the bridesmaids!

on 11/22/2005 If you introduce the bride's mom at the shower, introduce the groom's mom, too. I am the groom's mom, and I was ignored.

If the bride's mother's table was served second after the bride's, be sure the mother of the groom's table is served afterward. Actions speak loudly.

If you are not having drinks supplied, let the mother of the groom know this, so she can inform members of his family as well. Perhaps the bride and her mother shouldn't plan mean little things to do to his mom. They have a way of backfiring on you.

on 11/22/2005 I went to my future daughter-in-laws bridal shower and I was not introduced to anyone. Neither the brides mother nor the bride introduced me around. I'm not sure who had this, maybe the person having the shower? I don't know, but I personally couldn't wait to get out of there. I was embarrassed and very hurt over the whole affair. I didn't know what to do. I didn't feel it was my job to go from table to table and say "Guess what, I'm the groom's Mom." Please, whomever is giving a bridal shower please introduce the Mom's. The groom's Mom is just as important as the bride's Mom.