Comments on How to Get Over a Breakup

Be cool about it. Let him know you have your life to lead, you have your girlfriends with you. Keep in contact after chilling off (that's if the break up was reasonable), but don't look desperate. If you're meant to be, you guys will be able to start anew, only stronger.

Listen to Christina Aguilera's song; "Thank you." This song makes me emotionally stronger, makes my skin a littler thicker, and makes me that much wiser.

The feelings and the past can haunt you big time. Don't go through the same things again. Try and help others at every possible chance, the happiness you bring to others will bring a lot of happiness to your life. I am going through a breakup. I have brought smiles on the faces of people I know and those I didn't. I'm feeling better. It helped me, it may well help you too.

I feel it's important to take time to let your past relationship heal and to overcome the pain. Spend time with friends and hobbies but don't rush into a new love affair.

Trust me on this one, whatever you do. Don't try and analyze all those sappy "lost in love" type songs (like I'm still doing four months after a three year relationship ended). It's OK to grieve for a bit but you will only depress yourself more.

If there is a chance of being friends, take that chance. But give each other time to get over the relationship. Then just do things that you would do with your friends. Don't be hurt if you or him/her finds another person. Just be happy for what you had.

Think of the things that you love to do but could not do while you were still in the relationship. Single life is fun. There are less headaches!

friendLY but not friends, too many memories,too many situations where you once felt love and now it's not the same,holding on to the hope that maybe.. just maybe..no, it won't work.

#41 had it - DO NOT CALL. It will take all the self-discipline you can muster - but in the end you can say to yourself "at least I did not call". (this goes for random show ups at his job, etc). You will, trust me on this, come up with very creative and good reasons for you to call...realize that they are not based on reality and you have no idea where he/she is in their own heads...they may or may not be aching to talk to you - they may or may not miss you. In the end - especially if you are the dumpee - let them break down first. If they don't, and that is always possible, it's gonna hurt all over again when you realize it. Go through it and don't berate yourself with it. One piece of advice a friend gave me that I will never forget - true love means that they will be there for you through good and bad, true love sticks with it. If they didn't ... then they are not the one for you. Sounds cliche, but that is the only truth you can rely on. - by another recently dumped (smile - you will get through it)

sing along to a song as loud as you possibly can, with a hairbrush. make sure its not a sad song a good rocky number will do the trick. trust it works like a charm

Do what ever you have to do to get over it. Cry, scream, shout. Let out your pain and anger. Time does heal - one day you will wake up with that smile on your face. YOU will get over it. I promise! It's the beginning of something new ...

1) Don't get hung up about your 'loss.' Everything you imagined about your 'happy future together' was exactly that, your imagination. Turns out it was never going to happen anyway so you haven't really lost anything! 2) Get a gym membership or start pounding the road. Use all of that anxiety and hurt to turn yourself into a sharp blade. Make yourself untouchable. It will do wonders for your confidence. 3) Lucky you! A whole new world of opportunities (many of them extremely sexy) have just opened up for you. Keep looking straight ahead, not over your shoulder at the ashes of history.

Try to sleep early and wake up early. Fill your day with things you love doing...Go shopping with friends, go supermarket shopping, exercise, whatever! If you stay up late, you'll end up thinking about the things you use to do together (the nights he would take you out, blah, blah, blah). The extra sleep will keep you looking great if you happen to bump into him/her again.

I once was told to never let a man make you cry, because the right one will never make you cry. Every relationship is different. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and that people enter and exit our lives for reasons beyond our control. The key to any breakup is your buddies!

I think it's good to find a song that describes the pining that you feel for them. Play the heck out of it until you get sick of it (and thus sick of the person). I think that a really good one is "Time is Running Out" by Muse.

1) Exercise like never before. A wise man once said "A healthy mind lives within a healthy body." So keep your body in shape and looking great at all seasons. 2) Get some of your old friends back and make new ones along the way by joining a gym, joining a club at school or going to night clubs 3) Set goals in your life as far as improving your career and skills toward a new job. 4) Cultivate yourself spiritually in any religion of your choice up to the point that you make your faith so strong that your will to live is greater than ever before. 5) Give yourself time to heal. Date new people, but don't get into anything serious until you have rediscovered new parts of yourself and acquired new insights in what you want i n a person. Rule of thumb: spend half of the time you were with your ex out of a relationship and then move on to something new. Rushing things by having sex will leave you satisfied, but empty inside. So take your time. 6) Whatever you do, don't consider the fact of getting back with somebody after being dumped, because they were the ones in the first place that took you for granted. So if they ever reconsider; they messed up! Let them come to you and make it up. But even then, will you ever be able to trust them again? That's up to you. 7) Remember, before you can love somebody else you must love yourself. 8) Never cut out your friends for the significant other. If they are ever gone then you will not have no where to go for emotional support. 9) Learn from the past and know that there will be somebody out there better looking and with better qualities waiting for you. Faith is everything. So hope, pray and wait. You will find that better half that you thought you once lost.

Think of the things that you love to do but could not do while you were still in the relationship. Single life is fun. There are less headaches!

The best way to get over it in my view is to... 1. Look after yourself...Be healthy! 2. Treat yourself to a nice, shiny new car (something sporty with a mean sound system). Drive everywhere - Get seen, get heard, and be cocky! 3. Get some new friends. 4. Most importantly, get out to clubs and pubs and drink plenty (but don't get too drunk). Drinking may not seem like a cure, but it helps you get out there and socialize and get back to your old self. It worked for me!

The guy I was with apparently liked to see and conquer. Our entire relationship was kept a secret due to race (his idea). As soon as I would get over all the 458,749,058 times we broke up, he would see that I was on with my life and would then pursue me again. He can get my attention so quickly because I loved him so much. Even if he was feeling lonely and sad and I wasn't, I would always be there to comfort him. He was not there for me though. One night, my best friend and I were in the mall parking lot. Apparently he had told her that he thought I liked him more than he liked me (which means everything he's ever said is total bull). I freaked out. Well I had just bought him a whole package of Lemonheads (they are his favorite) and they were in my car. Well that night we took every Lemonhead and through it as hard as we could and assigned a reason for why he is a jerk. It relieved a lot of tension. The key is to focus on how great you are and how stupid he is! Really try to understand how dumb he is! Remember, God always ask you to put something down, so you can pick up something better.

Sometimes, it's just not possible to avoid hurting someone's feelings, even if you don't want to. But it's better for both of you to end the relationship rather than pretend that you still feel the way you did before. It's best to tell him yourself, rather than having a friend do it or having him hear it through the grapevine. If he hears it from someone else, he's going to feel even worse. He may feel like you've made a fool of him in front of his friends, or that you didn't even care enough about him to bother being honest with him. He's probably going to feel hurt and angry with you for ending the relationship, but he'll feel even more hurt and even angrier if he hears the bad news from someone else. It's usually very difficult for us to be honest and to tell someone that our feelings have changed. Even though it's perfectly normal and natural for a person's feelings to change, we may, nonetheless, feel awfully guilty about it. We may feel that we?re some terrible, disloyal, bad sort of person. Sometimes, we may feel so guilty, so disloyal, and so afraid of his angry, hurt feelings that we do things like picking a fight with him so we?ll have an excuse for breaking up with him. Rather than honestly admitting the real reason we want to end up the relationship, we may try to shift the blame on him. We may try to pretend that it's his fault, that it's something he's done or something about him as a person that's causing the break up. But, if you think about it, is it really right or really fair to shift the blame? My advice is - Be honest, but be kind!

Don't get drunk to forget about your ex. Overdoing it may lead you to "drink and dial," and you WILL regret it the next day. Also, the physical discomfort of a hangover makes the depression worse, which may lead you to drink again. If the pattern repeats itself, you may find youself in a state of dependency. Be careful with food, too. Grieving with a pint of Cherry Garcia is okay for a day or two, but making it a habit will only depress you further, particularly after the weight gain begins.

Change your habits and don't look for romance in a bar. Small town local bars are the last place to look for romance. Find some positive people with brains and conversations other than gossip to be around. Stay busy with dinners, exercise, new faces and places. This is not the first break up and you will survive it as you have survived the ones in the past. Draw on those historical facts. Make better choices in the future and take time. Do not lower your standards to compromise out of loneliness.

Listen to Christina Aguilera's song; "Thank you." This song makes me emotionally stronger, makes my skin a littler thicker, and makes me that much wiser.

Do not call, text, or write once all that there is to say has been said. It is a slow and painful process, especially if you were close friends as well. Do: 1. Work hard. 2. Flirt hard. 3. Go to lots and lots of movies and watch lots of TV. 4. Talk to your same-sex friends (especially if you are a guy). Time and discipline will reduce the pain, even if it may never completely disappear.

Everybody has little habits that annoy their significant other and mine was singing (probably not very well) any and all songs that played on the radio. I stopped doing it when I moved in with my partner (now ex), you will be amazed at how good you feel doing something you like to do, again.