on
3/5/2010
My HS sweet heart lied to me and my family and cheated on me and got pregant by him!!! She LIED to me telling me the baby was mine. The baby is 4 months old now and im really attached to the baby. I was so heart broken and sad, I just cried on the spot when she told me. I love her so much I couldn't stand the thought of us not being together so I told her I would forgive her and we can work it out. Then has the nerve to tell me we need to take a break. My family and friends say I should leave her and never look back, but I love her so much. I know she is sorry for what she did because we cried together. I dont know what to do. I cant eat, sleep or funcation at work or school. Please help me. I dont want to be sad anymore.
on
8/13/2009
Right now I feel like crap! My boyfriend of 2 & a half years cheated on me with a neighbor & tried to keep me from finding out by never allowing me to come by his house. For almost four months he made up excuses about how he felt so bad & needed to get his life together & he just couldnt see me or anybody because of what he was going through. It then got to the point where he said he wanted us to become friends because that was something we neglected to do in the beginning. I thought it was bull because why do you want us to be "friends" when we are already in a relationship. There were many red flags that were starting to pop uop, but he would always remind me of the love he had for me & how when he got through his lil "funk" things would be better. That was until I found out WHY all of these excuses were being thrown out at me. It's been a month since I found out & of course, he i...
on
2/1/2008
For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx
on
6/19/2007
i got my feelin caught up wit a man i enjoyed his present but there was days when he treated me like chixken head i fed him ,clothes him and never ask him for much just time and i couldnt get dat it my fault becuz i expected more then what i was gettin. i can say i love a man wh wasnt happy at home would do any thing for him to make him happy and got nothing in return not even happy mothe day valentine or christmas gift. we work for the same company. there days i miss him when i dont hear from him but i know sooner or later i gotta let go but im bein foolish holdin on to nothing dat there. what hurt me most i show him made love and respect but ath e end of day he dont call me ask me how im don and sleep with his woman of 16yrs. how can a man not be gettin his pleasure and hapyness at home remain with the female but do other women? im lost
on
6/19/2007
im in a sitution where the man i like got he best of me becuz i allow it and i wanna gain my strenth back and be the person i was b4 i met hte pig snob make it so bad he knows how i feel bout him feedin him clothin tellin him how much u care earn a man heart or even respect i admit im dum,b ecuz yes the man got a woman an he been cheatin on her for the last 16yrs of the relationship i been seein him for 9 months and becuz i care so much doin for him made me happy but him mis treatin me hurt more and at times i think bout how his girl feel but bein stubburn minded there a point i dont care bout her becuz i dotn deal wit her
on
5/25/2007
I JUST broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. I really loved reading everyone's article's. It was so hard. He had been cheating on me a week before we had broke up and then what made it so hard was that the girl that he is with now is my enemy, but Britney04
Your article was what I needed. Thanks alot!!!
on
5/2/2007
I am not ashamed to admit that I got dumped by a looser. He had no stable job, got fired from his old job for showing up drunk, got stoned on a regular basis and didn’t believe in wearing undies! TO TOP IT UP, the last few months he had been seeing this other woman who is 25, has three kids and her eldest is turning 10 (do the math)
I on the other hand have a university degree behind me, starting my own business which is heading international in 2 years, I know I am not ugly.....and HE dumped ME....I was crushed! Our relationship lasted 1.5 years, in that time I accepted that reject for who he was and he just used and abused me. I would have taken him to the top with me (as I know I am heading for success) I work with an international director who works in close affiliation with Donald Trump.
I am very lucky I have dodged a looser! The say the best revenge is a successful life
on
4/30/2007
"I'm bringing sexy back!"
The worst thing a person could do during a relationship is let herself/himself go! I was on birth control and gain a couple pounds. At the time I didn't care about my appearence because all I really care about is that he loves me and he loves me for who I am! Wrong! When he broke up with me, I immediately got of birth control and I started to work on my fitness. I became a whole new person because I lost the weight, cut my hair, colored my hair, and I got new clothes. His mouth dropped when he saw the new me! I of course didn't accept him back because I was still upset on why we broke up in the first place.
This is my advice to make yourself feel better.
1. Work on your fitness and play fun music during your workout. It made my fitness fun when I will listen to Justin Timberlake song "I'm bringing sexy back".
on
3/12/2007
I've recently split up from a 12 year relationship and we have 3 kids together. My idea at first because I wasn't happy and now I've realized just how much I love him. He wants me to change this and that before he came back and it takes time to do things differently. He's always concentrating on all the things on do wrong and never the good. He says I've ruined his life and it's always been about me and I don't think of his feelings. It's a big long drawn out mess but I want to get over him and move on. I hate being alone and I've never felt I needed someone before. Maybe it's because I'm tired of a messed up relationship with someone that doesn't love me for who I am. I call him all the time and don't want to. We see each other everyday because of the kids and I just want to stay away and start working on being a better person and a good Mom. I want him to see that there are good things about me that he is just pushing away. He wants me to be understanding and considerate towards him but he can't do the same for me. I'm not perfect but I gave him a lot of affection and he gave nothing but negative attitudes. Well you do this and you do that. Never Shell I'm happy to see you trying even if you don't always succeed. It's hard to find someone that gives a little spark in my life. I keep trying to find something wrong with them. Help!
on
3/12/2007
i'm trying to get over a relationship that I don't want to end. I did at first but realized how much I really did love him. We were together for 12 years and all 3 of my kids belong to him. He expects a lot out of me and expects me to be understanding and considerate towards him. We have out right fights on the phone and my heart just can't take it anymore. He says I've ruined his life and all I wanted was to be with him. The story is too long to get into but today was hopefully our last big fight. I want to move on and concentrate on being a better person and a good mom. It is so hard for me not to call though because I do constantly. I would love to meet someone else but I really don't go anywhere and all the guys I know are married. I thought maybe if I weren't alone it would help. I never use to need to have someone in my life, but now I hate being lonely and just want someone to appreciate me for who I am not try to mold me to be what they want. It is so hard. The worst part about it is that my kids are suffering the most. I don't really have any close friends either. I did but she stold from me when I was in Iraq last year and I just don't want anything to do with her. HELP!! How do I force myself to stop calling him? I have to see him everyday because he takes care of our kids in the morning because I start work early and I have to stop at his place after work everyday to get my daughter's booster seat. How do I have as little contact with him having so much play in my life? Any ideas!
on
2/27/2007
How right you are *britney04*
As soon as they realise what they've missed out on, THEY are the ones pining.
What attracts guys in the first place? A confident, self assured woman who knows what she wants. When he sees you don't give a crap, he'll want the attention more, better still when he sees just how GREAT your life is going, he'll realise he's missing out on being a part of it.
But remember, as the saying goes, 'any attention is good attention', so no going ape sh**t and going psyco and bad mouthing him, it shows you're still hungup on him.
And Britney's other point on having a 'business man' in your life is a definate 10 POINTS. Just remember the guy has to be better than him. So your guy was a mechanic, your new guy is a scientist, a doctor, a LAWYER! (Just remember to make it believable... we're trying to make YOU EX look like the lame a** looser, not yourself).
We all want what we can't have, so together with men's territorialism and their need to have control and showing how he is in charge, him seeing that he doesn't have any of this, * NO CONTROL OVER YOU, DOESN'T HAVE THE UPPER HAND, * HIS ONCE "TERRITORY" now being taken over by a new ""BETTER"" man will drive him crazy :)
... Now isn't that the way we all want it??
on
2/27/2007
Learn to live with the pain..And accept the truth thats its Called a Break Up Becaused its Broken!!..Forvige your ex if he dumped you..Becaused By forgiving you can only forvige yourself and set yourself free form a broken heart...
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blackcloud1985 said
on 3/5/2010 My HS sweet heart lied to me and my family and cheated on me and got pregant by him!!! She LIED to me telling me the baby was mine. The baby is 4 months old now and im really attached to the baby. I was so heart broken and sad, I just cried on the spot when she told me. I love her so much I couldn't stand the thought of us not being together so I told her I would forgive her and we can work it out. Then has the nerve to tell me we need to take a break. My family and friends say I should leave her and never look back, but I love her so much. I know she is sorry for what she did because we cried together. I dont know what to do. I cant eat, sleep or funcation at work or school. Please help me. I dont want to be sad anymore.
thischikhere said
on 8/13/2009 Right now I feel like crap! My boyfriend of 2 & a half years cheated on me with a neighbor & tried to keep me from finding out by never allowing me to come by his house. For almost four months he made up excuses about how he felt so bad & needed to get his life together & he just couldnt see me or anybody because of what he was going through. It then got to the point where he said he wanted us to become friends because that was something we neglected to do in the beginning. I thought it was bull because why do you want us to be "friends" when we are already in a relationship. There were many red flags that were starting to pop uop, but he would always remind me of the love he had for me & how when he got through his lil "funk" things would be better. That was until I found out WHY all of these excuses were being thrown out at me. It's been a month since I found out & of course, he i...
Jim Messina said
on 2/1/2008 For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx
alicia114 said
on 6/19/2007 i got my feelin caught up wit a man i enjoyed his present but there was days when he treated me like chixken head i fed him ,clothes him and never ask him for much just time and i couldnt get dat it my fault becuz i expected more then what i was gettin. i can say i love a man wh wasnt happy at home would do any thing for him to make him happy and got nothing in return not even happy mothe day valentine or christmas gift. we work for the same company. there days i miss him when i dont hear from him but i know sooner or later i gotta let go but im bein foolish holdin on to nothing dat there. what hurt me most i show him made love and respect but ath e end of day he dont call me ask me how im don and sleep with his woman of 16yrs. how can a man not be gettin his pleasure and hapyness at home remain with the female but do other women? im lost
alicia114 said
on 6/19/2007 im in a sitution where the man i like got he best of me becuz i allow it and i wanna gain my strenth back and be the person i was b4 i met hte pig snob make it so bad he knows how i feel bout him feedin him clothin tellin him how much u care earn a man heart or even respect i admit im dum,b ecuz yes the man got a woman an he been cheatin on her for the last 16yrs of the relationship i been seein him for 9 months and becuz i care so much doin for him made me happy but him mis treatin me hurt more and at times i think bout how his girl feel but bein stubburn minded there a point i dont care bout her becuz i dotn deal wit her
collegechickb said
on 5/25/2007 I JUST broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. I really loved reading everyone's article's. It was so hard. He had been cheating on me a week before we had broke up and then what made it so hard was that the girl that he is with now is my enemy, but Britney04
Your article was what I needed. Thanks alot!!!
collegechickb said
on 5/25/2007 .,
success said
on 5/2/2007 I am not ashamed to admit that I got dumped by a looser. He had no stable job, got fired from his old job for showing up drunk, got stoned on a regular basis and didn’t believe in wearing undies! TO TOP IT UP, the last few months he had been seeing this other woman who is 25, has three kids and her eldest is turning 10 (do the math)
I on the other hand have a university degree behind me, starting my own business which is heading international in 2 years, I know I am not ugly.....and HE dumped ME....I was crushed! Our relationship lasted 1.5 years, in that time I accepted that reject for who he was and he just used and abused me. I would have taken him to the top with me (as I know I am heading for success) I work with an international director who works in close affiliation with Donald Trump.
I am very lucky I have dodged a looser! The say the best revenge is a successful life
success said
on 5/2/2007 qd
girlygurl07 said
on 4/30/2007 "I'm bringing sexy back!"
The worst thing a person could do during a relationship is let herself/himself go! I was on birth control and gain a couple pounds. At the time I didn't care about my appearence because all I really care about is that he loves me and he loves me for who I am! Wrong! When he broke up with me, I immediately got of birth control and I started to work on my fitness. I became a whole new person because I lost the weight, cut my hair, colored my hair, and I got new clothes. His mouth dropped when he saw the new me! I of course didn't accept him back because I was still upset on why we broke up in the first place.
This is my advice to make yourself feel better.
1. Work on your fitness and play fun music during your workout. It made my fitness fun when I will listen to Justin Timberlake song "I'm bringing sexy back".
ShellyVT said
on 3/12/2007 I've recently split up from a 12 year relationship and we have 3 kids together. My idea at first because I wasn't happy and now I've realized just how much I love him. He wants me to change this and that before he came back and it takes time to do things differently. He's always concentrating on all the things on do wrong and never the good. He says I've ruined his life and it's always been about me and I don't think of his feelings. It's a big long drawn out mess but I want to get over him and move on. I hate being alone and I've never felt I needed someone before. Maybe it's because I'm tired of a messed up relationship with someone that doesn't love me for who I am. I call him all the time and don't want to. We see each other everyday because of the kids and I just want to stay away and start working on being a better person and a good Mom. I want him to see that there are good things about me that he is just pushing away. He wants me to be understanding and considerate towards him but he can't do the same for me. I'm not perfect but I gave him a lot of affection and he gave nothing but negative attitudes. Well you do this and you do that. Never Shell I'm happy to see you trying even if you don't always succeed. It's hard to find someone that gives a little spark in my life. I keep trying to find something wrong with them. Help!
ShellyVT said
on 3/12/2007 i'm trying to get over a relationship that I don't want to end. I did at first but realized how much I really did love him. We were together for 12 years and all 3 of my kids belong to him. He expects a lot out of me and expects me to be understanding and considerate towards him. We have out right fights on the phone and my heart just can't take it anymore. He says I've ruined his life and all I wanted was to be with him. The story is too long to get into but today was hopefully our last big fight. I want to move on and concentrate on being a better person and a good mom. It is so hard for me not to call though because I do constantly. I would love to meet someone else but I really don't go anywhere and all the guys I know are married. I thought maybe if I weren't alone it would help. I never use to need to have someone in my life, but now I hate being lonely and just want someone to appreciate me for who I am not try to mold me to be what they want. It is so hard. The worst part about it is that my kids are suffering the most. I don't really have any close friends either. I did but she stold from me when I was in Iraq last year and I just don't want anything to do with her. HELP!! How do I force myself to stop calling him? I have to see him everyday because he takes care of our kids in the morning because I start work early and I have to stop at his place after work everyday to get my daughter's booster seat. How do I have as little contact with him having so much play in my life? Any ideas!
Lalita said
on 2/27/2007 How right you are *britney04*
As soon as they realise what they've missed out on, THEY are the ones pining.
What attracts guys in the first place? A confident, self assured woman who knows what she wants. When he sees you don't give a crap, he'll want the attention more, better still when he sees just how GREAT your life is going, he'll realise he's missing out on being a part of it.
But remember, as the saying goes, 'any attention is good attention', so no going ape sh**t and going psyco and bad mouthing him, it shows you're still hungup on him.
And Britney's other point on having a 'business man' in your life is a definate 10 POINTS. Just remember the guy has to be better than him. So your guy was a mechanic, your new guy is a scientist, a doctor, a LAWYER! (Just remember to make it believable... we're trying to make YOU EX look like the lame a** looser, not yourself).
We all want what we can't have, so together with men's territorialism and their need to have control and showing how he is in charge, him seeing that he doesn't have any of this, * NO CONTROL OVER YOU, DOESN'T HAVE THE UPPER HAND, * HIS ONCE "TERRITORY" now being taken over by a new ""BETTER"" man will drive him crazy :)
... Now isn't that the way we all want it??
Britney04 said
on 2/27/2007 Learn to live with the pain..And accept the truth thats its Called a Break Up Becaused its Broken!!..Forvige your ex if he dumped you..Becaused By forgiving you can only forvige yourself and set yourself free form a broken heart...
Britney04 said
on 2/27/2007 TIME...TIME...TIME Just TIME can Prove it all..