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CCB44
Oct 23, 2007
"I know how it is." is what I have said. Why? Because I do know how it is to lose someone. Several times over. I don't know how a person feels. I just know how the situation is. That make sense? It usually does to the person I say it to.. -
CCB44
Oct 23, 2007
"I know how it is." is what I have said. Why? Because I do know how it is to lose someone. Several times over. I don't know how a person feels. I just know how the situation is. That make sense? It usually does to the person I say it to..
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Jun 30, 2006
Do nice things for them. Take them out for ice cream unexpectedly, or just call to tell them you love them.
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Jun 30, 2006
Do nice things for them. Take them out for ice cream unexpectedly, or just call to tell them you love them.
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Nov 22, 2005
Reassure them that what they are feeling is normal. Try to help them to realise this and accept the feeling of the moment as a natural reaction. It also helps to keep busy, no matter what their interests are. Encourage them to expand a present hobby perhaps, or whatever the griever likes.
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Nov 22, 2005
The griever can appreciate your sympathy, and it opens the door if he or she wants to talk about the death (or the divorce, or the miscarriage, or the job loss). If you avoid the subject, the griever isn't going to forget the abrupt change that has happened. In fact, your efforts to avoid the subject may be just plain annoying. It's not a good time to share your scientific research on survival statistics for brain tumors, marriages, babies, or jobs. It's never "for the best," and maybe you know the change is God-driven, but leave that to God and the griever to discover together. There is no right way to express grief. Just show your respect and let the griever call the shots.
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Nov 22, 2005
The griever can appreciate your sympathy, and it opens the door if he or she wants to talk about the death (or the divorce, or the miscarriage, or the job loss). If you avoid the subject, the griever isn't going to forget the abrupt change that has happened. In fact, your efforts to avoid the subject may be just plain annoying. It's not a good time to share your scientific research on survival statistics for brain tumors, marriages, babies, or jobs. It's never "for the best," and maybe you know the change is God-driven, but leave that to God and the griever to discover together. There is no right way to express grief. Just show your respect and let the griever call the shots.
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Nov 22, 2005
Take them out to do non-intellectual activities. Go grocery shopping or to a bookstore. Every now and then it's good to help them think about something else. Don't take them to a movie, which might be filled with all kinds of upsetting emotions.
