Comments on: How to Fix a Bad Relationship

on 10/1/2008 What do you do when the one you love has things that he hates about you and need to be fixed but he doesnt see the bad things that our about him.
example.
The one you love says he or she hates the way you tell them he or she is never there or do anything when they try my best when they can can

When really they are not there, they always walk out when there somehting important or stressful, they dont understand you, they think the worse of you right away, they always thinkt they are right.

but you cant seem to make them understand that...


help!

on 7/15/2007 Look dont ever cheat on your love. Respect them. Be faithful from the start. Once you cheat. There will always be a deep hidden grudge and no desire of them to trust you ever.

Dont judge them. They will feel uncomfortable forever. No matter how many times you would tell them how it is, they will always feel uncomfortable and keep a specified space from you.

Dont ever say anything you dont mean when your mad. They tend to think the truth comes out when your mad, and they will never forget the words that came out of your mouth.

Dont ever leave your loved one isolated when they are unhappy. It would make them feel unloved and they would never forget how you left them when they need you the most. No matter how mad you are at them. Dont leave them. Stay to show that you do love them and wont walk out just because your mad. Stay and cheer them up. That shows that you care.

on 4/13/2007 When I broke up it didn't go well because I told her I wanted to go "Cold Turkey". She threw a fit and we were there for 3 hours!

Can anyone tell me why it's so bad to go cold turkey? I think that's the best way, in fact I wrote about it here:
http://www.helium.com/tm/271613/people-really-worked-simple

Can you tell me if anything I wrote there is wrong? Seriously! Why does it have to be soooo difficult? Am I a horrible person?!!!

on 3/12/2007 Although its true that not everything can be fixed, this article focuses on poor communication being the source of most bad relationships and that can be fixed if the will to exists on both sides. Sucessfull relationships take alot of sacrifice and understanding that many people can not easily grasp or put into practice due to their being stuck in their behaviors,attitudes,ways of thinking, insecurities,etc... that has prevented them from a really fullfilling and sucessfull relationship. This means cracked mirrors were already cracked to begin with and the next relationship will be also.

on 11/22/2005 Hold on to what really matters in your relationship and let the rest go. Just because something bothered you for a second (such as leaving clothes on the floor) does it need to last for days or weeks?
Shouldn't the main focus be on how much you care for this person and the lives you share. Explain to them with an open heart the things that bother you, and try not to get angry. Sometimes just being forgiving is the only way to get past something. Also, being able to explain something calmly and honestly is the best way to get your point across and when they see that it really matters to you thats when they are most likely able to make those sacrifices.

Knowing some things or some people will never change can be frustrating, but when love is in the mix, we don't change them, we get them to make sacrifices on our behalf. Compromises that last lifetimes.

on 11/22/2005 Fixing a bad relationship is like breaking a mirror and trying to put it back together again. There will always be cracks, it will never be the same, and neither will you!