Comments on: How to Cope With Your Partner's Erectile Dysfunction

on 7/16/2008 My partner of 5 years has ED because of recently diagnosed diabetes. 6 months ago, before this happened, we were having sex AT LEAST once a day, if not more. He was VERY interested in it, all the time. Now he shies away from sexual contact completely...I've tried to be supportive, to suggest we try other ways to satisfy each other...it seems like he's determined to be a monk. He even told me he doesn't really think about sex anymore. I'm convinced that he's forcing himself not to think of it, he's depressed, ect. because this happened so fast...we noticed the problem start one week, very mildly, the next week, that was it. POOF, just like that. He's not even interested in his "favorite" things anymore. I'm trying to be supportive, but I'm not a nun or a saint...I need SOMETHING here. It's not so much about sexual gratification as emotional satisfaction and intimacy...our relationship ha

on 7/16/2008 My partner of 5 years has ED because of recently diagnosed diabetes. 6 months ago, before this happened, we were having sex AT LEAST once a day, if not more. He was VERY interested in it, all the time. Now he shies away from sexual contact completely...I've tried to be supportive, to suggest we try other ways to satisfy each other...it seems like he's determined to be a monk. He even told me he doesn't really think about sex anymore. I'm convinced that he's forcing himself not to think of it, he's depressed, ect. because this happened so fast...we noticed the problem start one week, very mildly, the next week, that was it. POOF, just like that. He's not even interested in his "favorite" things anymore. I'm trying to be supportive, but I'm not a nun or a saint...I need SOMETHING here. It's not so much about sexual gratification as emotional satisfaction and intimacy...our relationship ha

on 7/16/2008 My partner of 5 years has ED because of recently diagnosed diabetes. 6 months ago, before this happened, we were having sex AT LEAST once a day, if not more. He was VERY interested in it, all the time. Now he shies away from sexual contact completely...I've tried to be supportive, to suggest we try other ways to satisfy each other...it seems like he's determined to be a monk. He even told me he doesn't really think about sex anymore. I'm convinced that he's forcing himself not to think of it, he's depressed, ect. because this happened so fast...we noticed the problem start one week, very mildly, the next week, that was it. POOF, just like that. He's not even interested in his "favorite" things anymore. I'm trying to be supportive, but I'm not a nun or a saint...I need SOMETHING here. It's not so much about sexual gratification as emotional satisfaction and intimacy...our relationship ha

on 9/7/2006 Sex is an important factor in a relationship, but not the most important! Consider the situation of your partner being in a wheelchair or seriously hurt.You would have compassion for them and would be understanding because it's not their fault. It's the same concept. It is not your partners fault. Love them anyway!

on 6/30/2006 It's very important that both you and your partner are equally satisfied. Often, consideration is given to the partner with ED, but the partner that doesn't have ED is unsatisfied because of the sensitivity in talking about their needs as well. Communication is critical, no matter how sensitive the nature of ED. Both partners should be satisfied.

on 11/22/2005 I have diabetes and suffer from Erectile Dysfunction. I am very fortunate to have a great gal who understands and says it will not interfere with our true love for one another. If your partner doesn't feel this way, and is giving you the cold shoulder, then you aren't with the right person. Besides, there are other ways to satisfy your partner. I speak for other men who are experiencing the same problem, hang in there guys.

on 11/22/2005 Too often, we shy away from open communication, particularly with regards to sexual performance. There are a million ways to enjoy your partner and TRULY love them, even with this problem.

on 11/22/2005 My partner has e.d. because of diabetes. We have been dating 4 months. We have sex in ways besides intercourse and I am very fulfilled that way. I love him no matter what, and I tell him that every day.